Bled at 5w1d after FET

[Letstalkaboutitnow]

Hi ladies
I give up. I just can’t take this stress anymore.
I am 40 and I had an FET of our last embryo, which was frozen when i was 34. I found out I was pregnant last Friday and it’s been a journey. My TSH is 4.3, so I had to speak to an endocrinologist and amend my medication dose. I had 3 HCGs already, everything was going well, until I went toilet, number 2 today. When I wiped, there was a bit of a red blood and a stringy cloth. Very small. My tummy has been hurting all day, not too much, but it feels crampy and somehow stretched/tight.
Of course, I lost my mind. I tried calling the early pregnancy unit, they explained I need a referral. I called the GP who sent me to ER. I explained I will not go to ER, because first I would wait a whole day and second, they would not even see me on a scan. Then I started calling private scans, they all said no- we don’t do it under 6 weeks. One place agreed to do it. I went there and they saw a sack and a yolk, there was no heartbeat, but obv I am not 6 weeks yet. They couldn’t see a reason for the bleeding but explained that its very common to experience this during the first weeks of pregnancy.
Should I give up already. I am so panicky this time around, I don’t even know what to do with myself anymore. Also, any possibility of hearing a heartbeat so early?

I had spotting while in TWW and then quite a bit of bleeding the first 8 weeks or so following my 5th FET. It was fairly heavy at times and stringy/clots and I just couldn't see how it would end well. I had a scan at 5w2d and they saw yolk and gestational sac but nothing else but said that was to be expected. I then had another scan at 6w6d and they saw the heartbeat by then (although was told it was worryingly slow and to prepare for the worst). Anyway, now nearly 32 weeks pregnant and baby seems to be doing okay 🙏

Really hope similar story for you. My bleeding was really quite heavy at times and I just couldn't see that it wasnt the start of a miscarriage but it wasnt. The clinic thought it was a hematoma but the EPU disagreed and said they couldn't see anything so still no idea what actually caused it. On the flip side, my first transfer resulted in miscarriage and I had no signs or bleeding whatsoever (diagnosed at 10 week scan).

Thank you for responding!

I’m so happy for you! Wishing you the easiest birth, no more complications and a healthy mamma/baby.

This is my third try. First one was unsuccessful, second ended up successfully with a 4.5 year old at home.
Tbh I have given up on having another one but changed my mind. And now this… More stress. It’s a lot to handle on top of the everyday stress. Im prepared for the worst. Have no idea how to stay positive.

Early pregnancy is really stressful but some bleeding and spotting can actuall be normal even though its terrifying. It can honestly go either way. I have bled with majority of my healthy pregnancies due to haematomas, cervical irritation, pessaries, old blood coming away, stretching of the uterus, sometimes blood vessels burst from pressure and where the baby implants. Bleeding can sometimes just happen for no known reasons. Best way to know for sure how things are going is to get rescanned and check for growth and a flicker.