It’s time for IVF isn’t it

[Fertilityrealisation]

Ive had secondary infertility for 5 years.

Half that time I suppose I can’t really count as I had conditions which needed surgery (endometriosis, Isthmocele, fibroids and a cyst), also have had a hycosy as well.

After the surgery I’ve had 6 cycles of Letrozole.

I keep thinking I’ll try a supplement, I lost weight already , try to have acupuncture etc etc I think I’m just stalling thinking I can somehow fix this myself and I clearly can’t. It’s time for IVF isn’t it ?

Id hate to say it after all the work you have out in up until this point. But I do think you need to have a serious conversation with a fertility specialist maybe IUI could be next steps. Also having your partners sperm assessed if he has not done a sample yet. It sounds like you have had a hard road so maybe its time to let someone else take over the hard work and try something new.

I think it’s just time not to give up totally but for me to give up and pass the responsibility to a professional as I feel as if I have wellness fatigue! The amount of supplements and effort that goes into my diet, exercising, getting enough sleep, having and recovering from procedures and surgery etc it’s just so much. DH has had a test (well 2 actually) both were fine so the issue is with me. I feel like I’ve just had this realisation that I can’t do this , maybe it’ll never work but I suddenly feel that it’s not going to happen unless I get proper help. I have a feeling it will be suggested anyway at my next appt as Letrozole has failed a few times now.

I know what you mean by wellness fatigue! I have tried everything and I am so sick of supplements!!! We have unexplained infertility and I had to tell myself that there is absolutely no way that billions of people on this planet get pregnant without much if any prep and we can't have a baby because I forgot to take an organic mix of things only found on Venus during a snowstorm while my husband stands on his head and cycles his arms and legs counterclockwise. Having said that we did a freeze all cycle (freeze all due to risk of OHSS) and we did throw everything at it, food, supplements etc but that was focused on that one cycle of egg collection and embryo making. We are now about to start transfers. The lifestyle may or may not have helped, we will never know, but felt worth it since each cycle is so expensive and mentally and physically tough, but it definitely wasn't the reason we can't get pregnant and it's not needed before IVF particularly if it leads to more stress, guilt, financial issues etc. I personally skipped IUI and went straight for IVF, partially because I was hoping to bank some embryos (it worked we have a lot in the freezer thankfully), had IUI worked I would have then looked at IVF again for a potential sibling in my late 30s so wanted to get it done younger if possible. If you are hoping for one more you could try IUI but the odds are higher with IVF usually.

It’s exhausting and mentally draining isn’t it!! And like you say it just ends up being the most obscure things and once they are added to the routine you feel you have to continue.
I feel like even optimising everything I can’t even get myself up to the baseline ‘normal’ fertility.
I’ve thought about IUI but it doesn’t seem that different to the Letrozole cycles so I think our best bet is move to IVF.

Good luck for your transfers 🤞

I am right with you with wellness fatigue.. im also not at an idea weight and been struggling to lose it and also in perimenopaus and nothing is working for me and I just want to give up. Sick of taking supplements. Sick of counting calories, sick of wondering if iv had too many coffees . You get the gist. I also do think ivf is your next steps especially if your wanting to try for siblings or expand your family further.