Best thing to do is talk to your clinic to get their opinion and whether they will agree. I think generally with private treatment you might have a bit more flexibility than with an nhs round.
The only way I think you could potentially do this is to ask for only a certain number of eggs to be fertilised through ICSI or traditional IVF. E.g. you get 16 eggs, fertilise 6 and ask 10 to be frozen.
But by doing this you would need to accept you’d be lowering your chances of a successful outcome. The drop off/ attrition rate in ivf can be big, for example…
- you might get 16 eggs,
- 14 fertilise normally
- 10 make it to day 3
- 6 make it to day 5 blastocysts
- 4 are euploid normal embryos
In theory this would give you 4 chances but euploids don’t always take either. Your numbers could be better or worse than this you wouldn’t know either way unless you try.
If you did freeze some eggs I think these have a lower survival rate than a fertilised embryo (don’t know exact percentage so may not be huge but still a consideration).
This approach would also be more expensive, potentially a lot more expensive depending how many rounds you need plus storage costs. You’re potentially looking at more time, more money and a lower success rate.
Is it for religious reasons? That’s the only argument I’ve heard before for creating fewer embryos. Maybe learning a bit more about the process and possibilities for any unused embryos might be helpful to think about?
Also, consider that everything may go to plan and you get 4 viable embryos and would like 4 children - what if your feel completely fulfilled with 1 child, what if your financial situation changes after child 1 or 2, what if a child has additional needs and adding 2 more siblings would put strain on your family, what if something happened to your husband and you became a single parent? What would happen to any unused embryos in these situations. You can’t plan or predict every eventuality.
It’s sensible to explore your options and only go ahead with what you’re comfortable with but be mindful that it might not all be smooth sailing. It could be, but there could also be hurdles you can’t control.