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Frustration with nhs process and having to wait for everything

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Muddysocks1 · 23/10/2025 06:45

Just a bit of a rant. Feeling really out of control and frustrated with the process. We’re with an NHS clinic and doing letrozole at the moment. Already feeling stressed with just having to wait essentially and feeling like I’m being pushy if I ask for anything extra. Like the appts are badly timed (review appt following blood test to check progesterone isn’t booked until after next block of letrozole so too late to change dose if needed for example).
I know there’s probably just so much waiting in fertility treatment and I need to get used to it. I’m tempted to look at further private investigations alongside the nhs treatment because they’ve not offered or suggested, but is this frowned upon? Feels like there isn’t the same consideration as to issues as if we went private. But it’s all so expensive!
is the answer being more assertive? Or do you just suck it up?

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Muddysocks1 · 30/10/2025 12:08

Nosejug · 23/10/2025 09:04

I think it helps to vent these frustrations. If I ever have a full term pregnancy, it will be the agony of waiting I remember with the deepest regret. My life hasn’t been on hold in many ways, but it’s very easy to summarise the last four years as stagnant and wasted. I’m forever telling myself to invest in new things or old things that I love. I like to write, and have been trying to keep notes of interesting thoughts I’ve had over the years in the hopes that I can at least turn all the waiting into something. I’d be kidding myself if I could pretend to distract myself from this most powerful subject though!

Poor morphology is a factor for us, 2%. Full disclosure as I feel misleading if I don’t say (but don’t want to come across as insensitive) our last round produced our only good blastocyst (5 rounds, 14 eggs, 13 embryos only 2 blasts, and this last one the only good quality one). It implanted last week, so carefully watching and waiting and fearing.

Just coming back this to say, thinking of you and hoping this one is progressing for you @Nosejug 🤞🏻

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NeatZebra · 30/10/2025 12:53

@Nosejug I think we spoke on another post during my second miscarriage, I really hope this works out for you 💕

Nosejug · 01/11/2025 08:24

Aw thanks @Muddysocks1 and @NeatZebra . And yeah I remember you neat zebra. It’s a shame to know you both through our miscarriages, but hopefully we’ll all be on the other side soon. I had a 5+5 scan to make sure it wasn’t ectopic again, which it’s not. But the sonographer was so-so about what she saw, tiny fetal pole and only maybe a hb, and she said she’d expect to see both at this stage. Just holding my breath till next thurs scan 🤞 first pregnancy I never saw the fetal pole so it was lovely to see the beginnings of a baby whatever the outcome.

NeatZebra · 01/11/2025 10:17

I do think it's a bit hit and miss under 6 weeks if you see the heartbeat, but really hope everything works out for you 🙏🏼🤞🏼 xxxx

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