Infertility and dating advice please!

[BePerkyTiger]

Hello!

So first time poster, long time lurker. I’m a man and this is one of my go to places for the best advice, and now I’m asking the question. So I’m divorced and in my exceptionally late 30’s, and also completely infertile and have been since birth. (Everything works as it should, there’s just a very important missing ingredient 🙄) I’m trying to get back into the dating game and am on a couple of apps but struggling with the infertile side of things. What do the ladies need/want to know if you get talking? I’m obviously trying to steer clear of the people that want children still, as although I want my own children, I’ve decided I’m not open to any other options, ie adoption or donor, so therefore I won’t be having children. So how do I approach this and does or will infertility put people off?

Thank you in advance!

It will put off people who want children so it's good to be upfront, but there are plenty of women who don't want children.

Some apps have an option to tick that you don't want any.

I dont think you have to go into detail about your fertility status but being honest that kids aren’t on the table from the off is important. How about something like - I don't plan to have children of my own, but am open to dating someone who already has children or someone who is also childfree.

I'd agree about being upfront, esp if you were dating women in mid late 30s, it's good to be clear from the off where you stand so someone who really wants kids knows where they would stand.

I know from friends on the apps that some make it v clear on your profile if you don't want kids which is helpful. There will be plenty of women who don't want kids either but good to be on the same page from the get go