Trying to be supportive

[paigelucyxx]

Hey so I been TTC for 3 years and last Wednesday i got a Snapchat off my friend and it was her positive pregnancy test she’s 4 weeks pregnant with her 3rd first try and I really don’t know how to be a good friend rn and be supportive I said congratulations and been talking to her a bit but I’m having to listen to her about her symptoms and pregnancy all the time is kind of a kick in the clit I did end up losing it with her the other day tho icl because felt like it was being rubbed in my face just want to be a good friend but at same time im allowed to feel htf i feel like why even send me ur positive test? not gonna meet up with her or nothing as dont think It would be good for my mental health

@paigelucyxxits not easy but does she know you’ve been TTC? I think this would impact what I would do next.

@confused2025yeah she knows I been trying for 3 years x

Ok for me, I think that’s really insensitive - although she prob doesn’t realise and is in her bubble. If she’s a good friend you don’t want to lose, have a heart to heart with her. If she has a track record of being like this, she’s likely not a good person to have in your life. I have cut some people out during my journey and I honestly felt so much better for it x

tysm for ur advice and yeah she has apologised to me about it which I appreciate but I just feel so sad x

Not one cell of me understands people like this. This selfish and insensitive behaviour would be a friendship-ender for me. Sorry OP. I hope you have kinder and more supportive people in your circle!

@paigelucyxxthis is a really tough journey and you are allowed feel sad. I think if she continues to do this then you need to have less contact with her. Your mental health is more important. I also think you’re feeling how many going through this journey feel so this isn’t a you problem x

@magpie234 thank you I did get into it the other week with her as she was being insensitive and she apologised and said she didn’t wanna argue with me I do love her but really hard being her friend sometimes my bestfriend thinks I need to cut her off and tbh my bestfriend is always right x

@confused2025thank you! I agree with your comment because it is insensitive and like I would never do that if it was me and I was fertile ygm x

A true friend wouldn’t send you a photo of a positive pregnancy test over Snapchat and go on and on about her pregnancy knowing you’ve been ttc for 3 years.

She is allowed to be excited but she needs to pipe it down. A simple “I’m pregnant again, I just wanted to let you know before we meet up. I’m due in X month. I understand if you need time to process and as always I’m here for you”. Is better than shoving her pregnancy in your face.

I would reconsider continuing the friendship x

@ttcbabyno2beri thought this too and she has been going on about it a lot and she has apologised to me but I think our friendship is gonna fizzle out tbh xx