Positive stories after 2 years ttc anyone?

Riya619 · 2025-08-22T09:27:01+00:00

I’ve been ttc for two years now. Feel like I’ve tried all sorts and nothing has worked. Never had even one BFP. My life has been absolutely consumed by it and I feel like that’s all I think about now. Me and partner have been seen by the doctor. He’s had a semen test which showed everything was good other than morphology which was at 2%. I’ve had blood work which showed up fine. Yesterday I had a hycocsy which showed no blockages in my tubes however she mentioned I have a heart shaped womb which was surprising. Gynaecologist is now suggesting to go down ivf route as there’s nothing else she can offer us. I’m hesitant about ivf and just wondering if anybody got pregnant naturally after two years? Still holding on to some hope.

Returnofjude · 22/08/2025 10:30

How old are you?

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Riya619 · 22/08/2025 10:47

I’m 28 partner is 33

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Strawberrryfields · 22/08/2025 14:20

Sorry you’re in this position, I’ve been in a similar place and it sucks. I think morphology can fluctuate a bit but 2% is low and will likely make natural conception challenging as you’ve found already. But eating healthy, exercise and supplements etc. won’t harm so it’s worth a try. With your uterus, I think it depends how heart shaped it is as to whether it would be an issue or completely fine.

If were in your shoes I’d follow the GP advice and go for ivf/icsi. Depending on where you are there may be a wait and you can still keep trying naturally in the meantime. All our tests were normal and we didn’t have even a hint of a bfp in 2 years either so went down the ivf route.

Age is a big factor in ivf and at your age it’s likely that your chances of getting pregnant would be really good. There’s never any guarantee it, it could work first time or take a few rounds to get lucky. If you feel you may want more than one child the odds of that would be better too if you start sooner.

I appreciate it can feel daunting in some ways but I also found it a positive step as felt like I was being proactive and doing something that could bring that dream a bit closer. I found trying month after month and getting nowhere with no idea why really crushing. What are your hesitations around ivf?

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Riya619 · 22/08/2025 15:38

Thanks for your response. Nice speaking to somebody who actually understands the feeling. I’m just hesitant around ivf as I just never thought I would be in that position but I would do anything to increase our chance of having a baby so would be willing to try anything. Just hoping that there’s a possibility it could happen naturally. Did you do ivf? Was it successful for you?

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Strawberrryfields · 22/08/2025 22:17

I really do empathise, it’s not how you planned or expected for things to go and it can be hard to accept that your path to parenthood may well be different. But you’re really not alone, it’s 1 in 6/7 now. So many people don’t talk about their struggles as it’s so personal (I find you usually only hear from the people who conceived on their very first go!) but there’s so many of us out here.

Many of us do become parents (we have a child through ivf and very early stages with hopefully our 2nd) and I’ve found once your baby is here, whether they were conceived naturally or with assistance matters very little. If anything I feel incredibly proud and grateful for everything we’ve gone through to create our family. I don’t want to paint an overly rosy picture as it’s not been smooth sailing for us throughout and the unfairness of it still stings at times but I know I am still incredibly lucky.

I’ve spent about 10billion hours on google over the years and there definitely are people who’ve conceived naturally after 2+ years. Why not keep trying and just explore ivf a bit more? You don’t have to commit to anything straight away. Keep talking to your partner too, you’re in this together and whatever comes next, it’ll be so much easier with each others support.

Bluebellsfortwo · 22/08/2025 23:11

There's many many many people who get pregnant naturally after 2, 3, 4, 5 years of TTC. Heck, even 10 or 15 years, it can happen. You are young so your chances are good. I was the opposite to you - I remember after we passed 2 years of TTC I was super impatient and wanted to go through IVF as soon as we could. I was 26 and husband was 30. IVF is a big step though so I understand your hesitation. Have you considered options such as Clomid/Letrozole?

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Riya619 · 23/08/2025 09:30

Strawberrryfields · 22/08/2025 22:17

I really do empathise, it’s not how you planned or expected for things to go and it can be hard to accept that your path to parenthood may well be different. But you’re really not alone, it’s 1 in 6/7 now. So many people don’t talk about their struggles as it’s so personal (I find you usually only hear from the people who conceived on their very first go!) but there’s so many of us out here.

Many of us do become parents (we have a child through ivf and very early stages with hopefully our 2nd) and I’ve found once your baby is here, whether they were conceived naturally or with assistance matters very little. If anything I feel incredibly proud and grateful for everything we’ve gone through to create our family. I don’t want to paint an overly rosy picture as it’s not been smooth sailing for us throughout and the unfairness of it still stings at times but I know I am still incredibly lucky.

I’ve spent about 10billion hours on google over the years and there definitely are people who’ve conceived naturally after 2+ years. Why not keep trying and just explore ivf a bit more? You don’t have to commit to anything straight away. Keep talking to your partner too, you’re in this together and whatever comes next, it’ll be so much easier with each others support.

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Glad it all worked out for you! Good luck with your second round. Luckily I’ve managed to get an appointment next week to be referred for ivf. I will be going ahead and in the meanwhile just keep trying naturally. I suppose like you said it’s about the outcome and not how I planned to get there. Wishing you all the best on your journey

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Riya619 · 23/08/2025 09:34

Bluebellsfortwo · 22/08/2025 23:11

There's many many many people who get pregnant naturally after 2, 3, 4, 5 years of TTC. Heck, even 10 or 15 years, it can happen. You are young so your chances are good. I was the opposite to you - I remember after we passed 2 years of TTC I was super impatient and wanted to go through IVF as soon as we could. I was 26 and husband was 30. IVF is a big step though so I understand your hesitation. Have you considered options such as Clomid/Letrozole?

I am starting to get very impatient and will be going ahead to get referred for IVF. Although I would ideally like to concieve naturally I don’t want to delay a possible chance of having a baby through ivf any longer. How long was the process for you after you got referred? My doctor hasn’t prescribed me Letrozole, I’m guessing it’s because I am ovulating every month.

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magpie234 · 23/08/2025 10:19

I empathise. Been in your position (bar the heart-shaped uterus as far as am aware). Has your partner been examined for a varicocele and/or had a sperm dna fragmentation test?

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Riya619 · 23/08/2025 10:29

magpie234 · 23/08/2025 10:19

I empathise. Been in your position (bar the heart-shaped uterus as far as am aware). Has your partner been examined for a varicocele and/or had a sperm dna fragmentation test?

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No he hasn’t we’ve never been offered these tests. Currently going through NHS

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Strawberrryfields · 23/08/2025 10:37

@Riya619 thank you. That’s great you can be seen so quickly. Best of luck with everything 🤞

magpie234 · 23/08/2025 12:24

@Riya619 I would recommend them as my husband has been diagonosed with a large varicocele and high dna frag which the urologist we saw believes explains our unexplained infertility. I am currently pregnant (very early days) through ivf (my first ever positive test) but had he had it embolised earlier I may never have needed to do it. May very well not be your answer of course but might be worth looking up and asking your husband if he has ever noticed any of the signs. Male factor infertility accounts for at least 40% of cases.

Bluebellsfortwo · 23/08/2025 16:57

Riya619 · 23/08/2025 09:34

I am starting to get very impatient and will be going ahead to get referred for IVF. Although I would ideally like to concieve naturally I don’t want to delay a possible chance of having a baby through ivf any longer. How long was the process for you after you got referred? My doctor hasn’t prescribed me Letrozole, I’m guessing it’s because I am ovulating every month.

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I would definitely recommend going through the referral process especially if you are eligible for it on the NHS as it can be a long process and there are waiting lists. So for me the process was: My GP referred me in March 2021 to the fertility clinic, it took 7 months for that appointment which was in September 2021. The fertility clinic requested bloods, scan, HSG, and more semen analysis. It took another 6 months to complete all those and wait for my folloe up. I then had my follow up in April 2022, in this appointment I was referred for IVF-ICSI at the assisted conception (IVF clinic) which I started in July 2022. So from GP referral to starting IVF it was a little over a year. Obviously in the mean time keep trying but I would definitely go forward and join the IVF waiting list x

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Riya619 · 24/08/2025 00:02

magpie234 · 23/08/2025 12:24

@Riya619 I would recommend them as my husband has been diagonosed with a large varicocele and high dna frag which the urologist we saw believes explains our unexplained infertility. I am currently pregnant (very early days) through ivf (my first ever positive test) but had he had it embolised earlier I may never have needed to do it. May very well not be your answer of course but might be worth looking up and asking your husband if he has ever noticed any of the signs. Male factor infertility accounts for at least 40% of cases.

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Thank you that’s something I will start looking in to. Congratulations on your pregnancy! Glad it worked out for you🫶

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Muddysocks1 · 26/08/2025 13:32

No success here yet but just to say, has your partner had more than one semen analysis? Mine had two, I think 6-8 weeks apart, morphology was 2% at first test and 5% at second. So not sure if it was a sampling error or if it improved, only thing he changed was started taking a daily supplement for sperm (ova him).

We’re on cycle 17, two chemicals, been referred to nhs clinic who recommended letrozole first for 6 cycles. Once GP referred it was fairly quick for first appt and meds prescribed at that appt.