“Congratulations - you’ve graduated”

[PlanBFertility]

Something I thought I’d never hear. Today we had our 7 week scan and saw our miracle and their little heart beating away. 6 months ago we were told by our last consultant (after two rounds of total failed fertilisation) that without donor eggs and sperm, we’d never be parents.

Fast forward a now and not only was my first transfer successful, we have two in the freezer. All from our own eggs and sperm.

Whilst I am overjoyed, I am racked with nerves and constant panic and whilst my OH cried tears of relief and joy seeing our baby today; I felt numb.

Can someone please tell me this gets less scary and I will accept that miracles can happen.

Wow! Congratulations!!! What a massive milestone.

The first trimester is the hardest because you just have no idea what going on in there and you rely on symptoms to keep you going when in fact they can come and go. For me personally, I find once you start feeling movements and the stage where they become a pattern is when things start to feel better and you can sort of relax. My advice is to forget about what can go wrong and celebrate right now, each day that you make it through. Pregnancy should be celebrated and it goes by so quickly so dont waste those pregnancy days riddled with anxiety as you cant control what happens but it doesnt mean you cant be happy that your pregnant for right now.

Oh lovely, I’m sitting here with goosebumps reading this — what an utterly incredible turnaround after all you’ve been through. From hearing such a devastating prognosis to seeing that precious heartbeat today… it’s nothing short of a miracle. Truly.!

@PlanBFertility this is amazing news. I’m delighted for you x

Thank you all ❤️❤️

Hi OP, firstly congratulations. Secondly just to say that yes it does get a bit easier but just take each day as it comes in these early days. We had a 9 week miscarriage (it looked likely unviable at the 7 week scan) and several failed rounds etc. So when we finally got a 7 week scan all clear I was very nervous. Those nerves faded away with every passing week and after the 20 week scan I started to feel quite confident.

good luck!

Great news! Hope all goes well

MASSIVE congratulations!!!

it does get slightly easier that further j to pregnancy you get especially with them moving and wriggling so you can actually feel them for reassurance. In all honesty though the worry never goes away…even when they are here.

Have everything crossed for you, sometimes dreams do come true 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

Congratulations to you both! Thank you for sharing your wonderful news. Yes, miracles do happen so try to relax and enjoy every minute! Sending very best wishes as your dreams come true.

Congratulations - I had a long infertility journey and when I finally became pregnant I felt exactly like this, so really feel for you. The stress and trauma of infertility can leave a significant and lasting impact. I remember feeling I didn’t dare celebrate, or get excited and felt a bit disassociated from it all. My babies are now 17 & 18 now and all is fine! Two things I did which really helped - I bought a heart rate monitor, they are relatively cheap (compared to IVF!) and although some might say using one would fuel anxiety, I found it incredibly reassuring being able to have a listen to my baby’s heartbeat in between appointments, particularly as I had otherwise symptom-free pregnancies in the early stages. You can hear it from about 10-12 weeks from memory although I could be wrong. The other thing I did was to have some counselling, I did this quite late when my babies were toddlers but I realised I was still carrying a lot of negative/trigger associations about pregnancy, I guess it was a kind of PTSD and it really helped to process that. I really hope your pregnancy goes well and you can start to enjoy something which you have waited a long time for and so many people take for granted!!