Anyone else in IVF/FET Limbo?

[Sara237]

I've been waiting to have my embryos transferred for nearly a year now. First I had to have a cycle cancelled as a polyp and cyst were found. Then had to wait to see consultant, then finally had it removed. Then another wait for biopsy results. Then natural cycle cancelled as despite spending £600 on scans and bloods, ovulation was missed. Now waiting for next cycle which will be medicated. Literally feel all I do is wait. There's momentum, then nothing. Have decided am going to focus on a few things I can control regarding my body so diet, exercise etc. But this certainly tests resilience doesn't it? I've realized I've a wobbly stomach but a core of iron resilience so to anyone else out there stuck in this on off seemingly endless limbo...I feel your pain!

That unfortunately is all ivf is about. Waiting!! We did a fet in November of 2024 and ended in a chemical, then decided to go ahead after much debating to do a new cycle in april which was a complete failure, then had my may cycle cancelled because I bled heavily in between my cycle, then completely missed a period in june and finally got a bleed this month but then was put on the pill for the clinic to take control of my body. Finally started stims but things didnt go to plan at my first scan and now im in limbo until wednesday when I get more scans and bloods so have no idea about egg pick up which was planned for friday. Just all the waiting around in limbo and never feels as though your getting anywhere.

@Miraclemuma03 I'm so sorry you've been through all this. As you say, the defining experience of IVF seems to be waiting in limbo! I do tend to bounce back but it takes it till. Hope your scans and bloods all ok tomorrow.

Dont be sorry. Unfortunately this is what its like to do ivf. Its a hard way to have a baby and in all honesty im very fortunate.

Hello,
I am at the start of limbo. Your journey sounds like it has been hard work, best wishes for it.
I was referred for ivf because of endometriosis and cyst related problems (and my age!), and have just been told there are yet more very large cysts that need to be removed before IVF. So going to have egg retrieval and sperm made for future FET, after this surgery has taken place. Trying to chase up when I will know when that will happen, as soon as possible far it seems absolutely vague and terrifying.

@NoNewsIs i have started to think of it more as a rather expensive and long winded hobby! It can take its toll but I actually found the IVF process absolutely fine. I felt well on it and quite enjoyed the sense of momentum. I was blessed with my son. Once those cysts are sorted you'll be well on your way. Obviously everybody has a different experience and support system and IVF is an emotional rollercoaster in many ways but feel free to share or ask if you're feeling terrified/need a digital handhold. I'm mostly just irritated these days!

Me too! I had two free cycles on NHS one of which gave me my son who's now 7. Very, very grateful for him.

@Sara237 your hobby comment made me laugh! Thank you for sharing your experience, it is heartening to hear. I’ve met quite a few women who’ve had endometriosis and ivf but don’t know anyone in real life who has had cysts and had to have surgery, so it is nice to know someone has been in the same boat and ended up with a baby!
I’m also NHS and starting first round of two.

Oh love, that’s such a powerful line “a wobbly stomach but a core of iron resilience.” You're absolutely right, this journey is a relentless test of patience and strength. Sending you all the love as you keep going, you've got that fire, even in the stop-start fog. 💛