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So nervous for test day!

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MissEmily5 · 14/07/2025 19:45

I’m hoping this will be the last time I need to make a thread regarding this topic but I just need to let it all out… me and my OH are currently on 12dp5dt on our 2nd round of ICSI.

This round we’ve been incredibly lucky and managed to get two blastocysts- x1 5AA (transferred) and x1 4AB (frozen). A massive step up from our first time which we got no blasts. I’m still in shock about this news to be honest.

We’re so near to our test day (14dp5dt) but I just feel so worried. I genuinely can’t predict how this is going to go and I know I could technically test but I have no desire in ‘testing early’… I genuinely think I have trauma at the amount of negative pregnancy tests I’ve seen over the last couple of years.

The thought of getting good news and actually getting to bring home a baby seems impossible to me, as well as the idea of having to go through this again and potentially not getting funding makes me feel so ill.

It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions the past 12 days (hell the past couple of years!) and although ‘symptoms’ mean nothing in a medicated TWW, I’m struggling not to spiral! Every twinge and more recently lack of twinges has made me so worried and I try to tell myself ‘whatever will be will be’ because there is literally crap all I can do about it but it’s just overwhelming.

To anyone and everyone who is struggling TTC- no matter how long because it really is so consuming and heartbreaking at any stage- I’m sending lots of baby dust and courage to you all!
This community has helped me when I’ve felt so alone in it all and for that I’ll always been grateful!
Thanks for reading my rant 😂

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Miraclemuma03 · 14/07/2025 21:05

I always say, "ivf is a hard way to have a baby". The 2ww is even harder because you know you created an embryo and have done all the hard work, and then its all up to the uterus and the egg to make the rest happen. When it fails its so confusing because you did "everything right". If it makes you feel any better, for my last 2 successful transfers, I had absolutely no sort of symtoms at all, no cramping, no nothing. Maybe on day 3 for one of them, I got a burst of hunger, like my stomach was empty and became light headed but I played that off from not eating much dinner the night before and missing brekky. If there was any sort of twinges or anything, again it was most probably the progesterone I was taking. When I got a positive test I was shocked because I felt absolutely and utterly normal both times. My real pregnancy symptoms didnt start until around 6 weeks.

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MissEmily5 · 14/07/2025 21:56

Miraclemuma03 · 14/07/2025 21:05

I always say, "ivf is a hard way to have a baby". The 2ww is even harder because you know you created an embryo and have done all the hard work, and then its all up to the uterus and the egg to make the rest happen. When it fails its so confusing because you did "everything right". If it makes you feel any better, for my last 2 successful transfers, I had absolutely no sort of symtoms at all, no cramping, no nothing. Maybe on day 3 for one of them, I got a burst of hunger, like my stomach was empty and became light headed but I played that off from not eating much dinner the night before and missing brekky. If there was any sort of twinges or anything, again it was most probably the progesterone I was taking. When I got a positive test I was shocked because I felt absolutely and utterly normal both times. My real pregnancy symptoms didnt start until around 6 weeks.

Hi, thank you for taking the time to message and read my rant:)
Definitely very hard especially with everything you’ve had to go through to get to this point- just wishing it’s all been worth it.

Thank you for sharing your experience- very glad that you got your much wanted babe:)

I think my main thing has been the fatigue- I’ve had cramps on and off but mainly the first four days after transfer, but the tiredness is something else! Not helped with the meds or the heat I imagine.

I will definitely be in a state of shock if this all works out- when you get to the point of IVF lucky things don’t tend to happen to you… thank you again for your kindness :)

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PlanBFertility · 15/07/2025 07:51

Best of luck for OTD. I salute your ability to wait. I tested out my trigger and then been testing daily and I’m not sure it’s helped at all with anxiety!

Strawberrryfields · 15/07/2025 09:13

I’m 8dp5dt and my nerves have really kicked in too. I’m usually an early tester but after a failed round a few months ago I decided to wait this time (so hard to keep going with the meds when you know it hasn’t worked). But it’s hard knowing I’d probably get a definitive answer at this stage. And I’m scared for that to not be the answer I’m hoping for.

I’ve had a successful pregnancy, unsuccessful pregnancies and failed rounds and it’s so hard not to compare symptoms or lack thereof. But every pregnancy is different so you just never know. Completely understand the fear though. 😓 really hope you get your positive 🤞

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MissEmily5 · 15/07/2025 12:55

PlanBFertility · 15/07/2025 07:51

Best of luck for OTD. I salute your ability to wait. I tested out my trigger and then been testing daily and I’m not sure it’s helped at all with anxiety!

Thank you very much!
did you get your happy news? 🤞that’s the main reason why I haven’t tested either, even if it’s good news I’ll still be petrified! All the best to you x

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MissEmily5 · 15/07/2025 12:58

Strawberrryfields · 15/07/2025 09:13

I’m 8dp5dt and my nerves have really kicked in too. I’m usually an early tester but after a failed round a few months ago I decided to wait this time (so hard to keep going with the meds when you know it hasn’t worked). But it’s hard knowing I’d probably get a definitive answer at this stage. And I’m scared for that to not be the answer I’m hoping for.

I’ve had a successful pregnancy, unsuccessful pregnancies and failed rounds and it’s so hard not to compare symptoms or lack thereof. But every pregnancy is different so you just never know. Completely understand the fear though. 😓 really hope you get your positive 🤞

I’m very sorry for your losses 😔 it’s so heartbreaking and nerve wracking to wonder if it’s ever going to happen.
Infertility is not for the faint of heart ♥️ thank you very much, just one more day for me and I’ll know no matter what. Wishing you luck also xx

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PlanBFertility · 15/07/2025 14:30

@MissEmily5 I tested positive 5dp5dt. Still going strong at the minute at 8dp5dt ❤️❤️

Strawberrryfields · 15/07/2025 14:45

Thank you @MissEmily5 ♥️ Yes it’s exhausting. The hope carries you through but it’s also what gets you. Here’s to a lovely bfp tomorrow 🤞

Strawberrryfields · 15/07/2025 14:47

Eek congrats @PlanBFertility exactly same dates as me 😬 hoping we can join you soon!

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MissEmily5 · 15/07/2025 16:17

@PlanBFertility aw congratulations! I’m wishing you a very happy and healthy pregnancy 🍀

@Strawberrryfields definitely- hope is why we do this but god it’s the kicker! Thank you very much- don’t think i’ll sleep tonight! ♥️

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