Handhold .. got BFP but now the fear of another CP is setting in

[Mrsplants]

It’s been almost 5 years of trying, hoping and preying for a baby. I’m 13 DPO today and have had a positive test for the last two days. I had a feeling I was pregnant as the last few days I felt a bit nauseous, sore boobs on and off and just generally feeling a bit under the weather.

The last time we got pregnant it ended in a chemical pregnancy. At about 4weeks 6 days. As it’s so early (think I am 3weeks 6 days) I just feel absolutely terrified of the next week and what happened last time happening again.

I’ve also felt my symptoms seem to have fizzled a bit which is making me nervous too and last night felt crampy in my back, one hip and one thigh, all on the same side. Obviously I am obsessing over these things!

I just wondered if anybody else has also just got a BFP and is equally feeling a ball of nerves? Or if there’s anybody who knows how I’m feeling that can help me from not spiralling.

For those who have had losses, had did you stay level headed and sane?

@Mrsplants sending love and positive vibes! I am 4+1 and getting strong positive tests now (after an ivf transfer) but still a bit nervous!

I dont hvae many symptoms tbh, slightly fuller boobs, some cramps and a bit of nausea

@Timetotryagain mine is a transfer too! When is your clinic OTD? Mine is not until next Saturday at 14dp5dt… which seems forever away.

And sending positive vibes to you too @Timetotryagain🤞🏼 are you trying for baby number 1?

@Mrsplants mine is on 14dp5dt (Wednesday i think) which i also thought was super late as thats 18dpo equivilent!

This will be baby number 2 (we had a mc then chemical then successful pregnancy and now this pregnancy for number 2). How about you?

sorry for your loss. I had a loss late in the first trimester my thoughts are don’t keep testing. So many threads here about “line progression” and after my miscarriage I realised how utterly pointless it is. The line can fade depending on hydration etc and I think it just turns people into balls of anxiety doing it !

Thank you @TheIceBeari am sorry for your loss too. I have been testing every day and have been sucked into the ‘line progression’ analysis. I do find myself panicking if it looks a bit lighter so was thinking that I should perhaps take a step back from the tests.

@Timetotryagain18DPO is late isn’t it. I know other clinics have earlier OTDs. I’m sorry to hear about your previous losses. How amazing that you went on to have a baby .. it gives me hope! Did you find you had a lot of anxiety? Any tips for how to manage this?

This will be number 1 for us. I’ve seen there’s a thread for 2026 babies.. I’m too scared to join it yet but hopefully I can soon 🤞🏼

@Mrsplants join us over on that thread theres a few of us super early on! It was myOTD today and did a clesrblue digital and got 2 - 3 :)

Thanks @Timetotryagaini will put a message in soon! Yay so amazing you got a 2-3! I am doing daily tests still but have not used a digital yet

Hi @Timetotryagainmy frer is a bit lighter this morning. The bottom two tests are from this morning, the ones above are each morning prior. Not sure if I should be worried. My internet cheapie is darker though this morning. Still can’t relax as this is when my tests faded out last time!!

@Mrsplants i think it looks the same and its good your cheapie strips are darker! I would honestly stop testing now because sometimes i have taken a teat at 9am and then like an obsessive psycho have taken one an hour later and ita substantially darker. Just depends on hydration levels etc! I am no longer doing any tests and the last line test i did was 11dp5dt (now its 14dp5dt) what is it for you now?

Thanks @Timetotryagaini really needed to hear that this morning. I did end up taking a second test mid morning and it was darker. I am 12DP5DT and my OTD is Saturday at 14DP5DT. Assuming I get a positive on Saturday I have a blood test and then I am not going to test anymore. I will also join the other group at that point too. Fingers crossed!

@Mrsplants how are you doing?

I’m good @Timetotryagaini am over on the other thread now as my other user name lemons44 😊

@Mrsplants oh awesome :D :D

Sending you love.
It took us 18 years to get pregnant and It turned out to be a chemical. A year later we fell pregnant again via ivf and I was a bag of nerves the entire pregnancy. I admit, I obsessively tested several times a day up until 7 weeks and my advice is please just relax and don't test anymore. There's nothing you can do to change the outcome and the added stress is really not good for the body. Try to distract yourself. Get out for a walk , watch some comedies, do things that will lift your mood and keep you feeling positive