Consumed with FET

[Isittime1984]

I am in a same sex marriage. We have been trying for 5 years and have had multiple IUI’s FET, fresh transfers. One worked, but sadly ended in miscarriage.
we have one embryo left in storage, but I am absolutely consumed with the thought that we have one left and if that doesn’t work that is it. I keep telling myself I’ve accepted this might be the end of our journey, but when I’m on my own and in my own thoughts I’m finding that had to accept. I am also about to turn 41 tomorrow, and thinking about how another year has passed with no success.
To add to this my sister is 7months pregnant, and our due dates would have been very close together.
I am taking vitamins, folic acid, was on progesterone, is there anything else anyone could suggest for the last one?

What testing has been done so far? I dont know everything there is to know about ivf as i dont have any real complications, I dont have fallopian tubes and have lower amh. but there are tests to check receptivity of the lining of the uterus, you can get nk cells tested, have you been checked for any sort of endometriosis or other scaring in the uterus or ovaries. Have you had the embryos tested? I really dont know, I hope someone come ons and has a really long helpful comment for you. Im sorry your journey has been a long one and I wish you all the success in the future.

Hi, just wanted to say I completely understand how it takes over; the momentum and sense of purpose on a cycle, all the rollercoasters and hurdles. The crushing disappointments. In all honesty, I feel that a lot of these extra things are for a psychological boost mainly and I'm not dismissing that as obviously mind-body peace is key. My IVF worked when I was slimmer and working out a lot. But so much of it is out of our hands. I was 40 when I had my only son. I've turned to donor eggs now and wish I had sooner. For me, knowing I'll grow and nurture a child, means I'm at peace with this. I see us all as interconnected so this works for me. I think the pgt testing is also worthwhile though I could never have afforded it. Good luck.

I think inflammation and microbiome would be worth testing. It’s not easy and I can understand it’s harder to escape with your sister about to have her baby. You’re in my thoughts and I really hope your FET works x

Thank you for your suggestions. I am going to look into these in a bit more detail. I havent had anything come up on any scans relating to endometriosis. I do suffer with quite heavy periods though. I did have a fertility MOT at the beginning of our journey and things were ok. Donor egg is a consideration. Haven’t had the embryo tested, but can’t really afford this as an added extra

I would love to have my embryos tested when I actually make some as iv had a baby with chromosomal abnormalities before but I also can not afford to test, especially at my age. But iv been quoted $15,000 on top of ivf costs and I cant manage it. Also my fs said it's not an exact science just yet, even though he recommends it, there are still no guarantees.