6dp5dt line - looking for a hand hold

[Geordienewbie]

I had a FET last Wednesday and I just did something really stupid and tested early and I’ve got faint but clear lines. They came up straight away and they’re slightly pink. I’ve never seen a second line in 3 years of trying and even though I can see them I just don’t really believe it. I didn’t have a trigger and I’m on the usual medication (estrogen and progesterone) so I don’t think it could be a false positive? I used the same batch of tests for my last FET and it was stark negative on 9dp.

I don’t even know why I’m posting. Think I’m just looking for a hand hold because I have to decide whether or not to tell my husband when he gets in from work in a couple of hours.

If anyone has any advice or opinions on these tests I’d just be grateful for a friendly message from someone who understands what it’s like going through this madness.

Hi op, tentative congratulations 🥳 I got a BFP 7dp5dt but it was a fresh, not sure if that makes a difference. I would personally tell a white lie and suggest doing a test to your husband so you guys can ‘have that moment together!’. Easier said than done, but try and allow yourself some joy - at this moment you are pregnant!

I would say it’s looking good! I had a faint line too at 6 days post FET and it got darker over the following days so like the previous poster I would say tentative congrats

@Geordienewbie , did you test again today? It is obviously still extremely early and anything can happen, but if those line appeared within the three minutes, it's very good lines for 6dp5dt! 🌻🌻

I was in this exact same place about two weeks ago and was also torn between keeping quite and sharing this news. I decided to show it to my husband, because irrespective of how things end, I wanted him to share this little bit of hope with me, and I am glad I did. I also think he is glad that I included him in this journey. But you will know better how your husband will take it.

I ended up testing every morning until my first beta (days 6-9, beta was on 10), and then again once between the first and second beta (tested day 12, beta was day 14). I feel like it really helped me to manage my expectations a little better and not to drive myself crazy with all of the uncertainty. I ended up having two very good betas and I'm now waiting for our 7 week scan (the stress doesn't get less).

If you decide to go this route, I would just caution that the progression was quite slow at the start so try not to get too tripped up on that. And then suddenly at 12 days it went from still quite light to super dark matching the control. Also use the same brand of test everyday.

Anyway, there is no "right" way to deal with this very difficult and stressful situation. Do what feels best to you. I'm rooting for you and I hope you can take comfort in the fact that at least something seems to be happening!

All the best to you! Keep us posted if you feel like it or just want to chat

Thank you all for your replies and reassurance! I never intended to test early but I think I just wanted to start managing my disappointment because last transfer I was convinced it had worked and I was devastated on OTD. I never imagined they would be positive.

@Btowngirl thank you! This is definitely going to be my mantra!

@Frenchie86 thank you!

@JJB92 I tested again this morning and the strip test was pretty similar to yesterday so I’m glad you’ve mentioned that about your progression. I also did the digital I’d been saving for OTD on Friday and it was positive. I told my husband as soon as he came home yesterday and he was fine about it. I think he knows how anxious I’ve been. When is your 7 week scan? Tentative congratulations to you 😊

I am glad you could share with your husband and have someone to lean on during this time. It's great that the digital is already saying positive! Sound like a very promising sign to me as they seem to be way less sensitive. How long until you official test day?

Thank you! My scan is next week Thursday. It still feels so far away, but I know it'll go fast.

My test day is Friday so hopefully if it’s still positive I’ll phone up the clinic and get a date for a scan. I don’t think my clinic do blood tests though so I’ll probably just keep testing once a day with the strip tests for some reassurance.

That will definitely go quickly! Sending lots of good vibes to you. I know every milestone is going to be stressful but hopefully we can both just keep as zen as possible. I should be throwing myself into work right now but I’m feeling very distracted today!

Thank you! Friday is just around the corner😅 You'll get your good news soon!

@Geordienewbiei think I must have had my FET the same day as you!!! I also tested yesterday at 6dp5dt (having promised myself I wouldn’t test early) and mine look exactly the same as yours. Today’s is very similar, possibly slightly fainter, so I feel like the glimmer of hope I had yesterday has gone but just have to keep waiting and keep EVERYTHING crossed.

also have official test day on Friday - and if it’s positive then they want me in for blood test so at least it’s not long to wait. Hate, hate, hate this part of IVF so much

@MrsWindrush so nice to hear from someone on the same timeline! It’s still so early for us both so we just have to hope that everything progresses as it should. I’ve never been pregnant before so I just keep reminding myself that this is a massive milestone for us.

Are you going to test again tomorrow? I think I will because then at least I’ll get more of an idea with the 48 hours comparison.

Sending lots of luck and positive thoughts your way!

Hi @Geordienewbie and @MrsWindrush I’m on the exact same timeline as you too! Had my FET last Wednesday, although my OTD is Sunday. I haven’t tested yet but going to test on Friday so we have the weekend to adjust if it’s bad news…

It’s my 4th transfer after three bfns, so I’m feeling very nervous and struggling to have much hope! Congratulations to both of you on your positives so far, that’s really exciting ☺️

@Sunnydaysahead1welcome to the Weds 25th transfer club!! I’ve had 3 BFN transfers through 2024/this year, but my first one (back in 2022) was a BFP and is my (now) 2.5 year old. Going from it working first time to now what feels like endless failed transfers has been an adjustment for sure. Can’t really imagine I’ll see that strong second line again but have to keep having hope!

@Geordienewbiei’m defs going to be testing tomorrow and if it’s no stronger I’ll assume I’m out I think. Here’s hoping today’s faint one was just an oddity being lighter but having done this 3 times in
the last year I’m not super hopeful! Have got a FRER so will probs use that tomorrow along with the cheapy strips…

Hello @Sunnydaysahead1 so sorry that you have had such a tough time of it. I honestly don’t know how we all do it sometimes. If I could go back in time and wait until Friday to test, I definitely would. I felt better in the short term but I definitely have more anxiety now.

@MrsWindrush I have everything crossed for you for tomorrow!

I’m also on the exact timeframe, transfer was last Wednesday afternoon and OTD is Sunday, although I have tested early. I have very faint lines, I also haven’t noticed progression so I’m not feeling optimistic.

Welcome @chlogan How are you feeling today?

Thinking of everyone testing today. Mine were very similar again which is pretty upsetting. My husband is convinced the one from the morning is noticeably darker than the ones from Tuesday but I’m not sure. Still a clear line though so today, I am still pregnant!

Who’d have thought there would be so many of us with transfers last Wednesday?! Hope everyone who is testing doesn’t find that it makes them feel more worried than before! I’ve done a First Response test this morning which definitely has a second line, although not particularly thick/dark, and another clear blue (which is what I did Tues & Weds - Wednesdays was lighter than Tuesdays which sent me spiralling yesterday.) Today’s is darker than yesterdays although again not super clear or obvious. If there’s a line tomorrow then the clinic will get me in for bloods so hopefully that’ll give answers!

I cracked and did a digital and it came up Not Pregnant. You would think that it would help with closure and acceptance that it’s over but I am still trying to kid myself there’s a chance. I was still getting a faint line yesterday on my cheapies but I haven’t used one today.

Oh wow lots of us that did transfers on the Wednesday, let’s hope the 25th was a lucky day for transfers for us all!

I’m sorry you’re all feeling worried about faint lines, ugh this process is just so so hard! As far as I understand, tests aren’t really reliable to show increase in HCG as it could depend on how hydrated you are etc? But saying that, I’ve never seen a positive test before but I can imagine still feeling the same anxiety as you all about line progression.

@chlogan sorry to hear it was a negative on the digital, have you tried again with the cheapies? Could it be that it’s just a bit too early for the digital still?

I’ve got my fingers crossed for everyone tomorrow ❤️

@MrsWindrush glad your line is looking a bit darker today. I’ve gone fully insane and ended up doing another test mid morning and it was actually a bit darker and noticeably more so than the ones from 48 hours ago, so I’m allowing myself a little bit of hope 🤞 Roll on OTD tomorrow!

@chlogan ah I’m so sorry. Not to give any false hope but could the digital be a higher sensitivity? I hope you’re ok.

@Sunnydaysahead1 are you still planning on testing tomorrow? How are you feeling about it?

I feel pretty certain I’m out now. I’ve tried to convince myself that it’s because it’s too early but I think I I know deep down, I think I always knew. I will do an internet cheapie for the next few mornings to take me up to OTD but I will be amazed if there’s still a line tomorrow.

Congrats to all those who have had a positive and I wish you all a happy, healthy and successful pregnancy.

Oh I’m so so sorry to hear that @chlogan it’s so gut wrenchingly hard. I really hope there’s a line for you tomorrow, but if not give yourself time to grieve it and be really kind to yourself. After bfns I always try and do the things I’ve been strict about during ivf - like have a massive pizza and a bottle of wine, and a trip to the sauna. And if you decide to try again I hope it helps to work out your next steps, and my fingers are crossed that your next one is the one ❤️

@Geordienewbie yes still planning to test tomorrow, feel sick at the thought of it tbh. I’m finding it really hard to imagine ever getting a positive, but I guess at least I’ll no longer be in this limbo and will know one way or the other. And that’s fantastic your mid morning one was darker, definitely have hope!

@chlogan so sorry, it’s so hard going through this rollercoaster. Be kind to yourself x

@Sunnydaysahead1 I can totally relate to that feeling and honestly I still don’t really believe that I’m actually pregnant. I have everything crossed for you for tomorrow ✨

When I was obsessively testing I was getting stronger lines with second morning urine rather than first. I think the volume overnight and how long it’s stored can impact how dark your line is.

its such a tough time. I thought a positive test would be exciting but it was just the start of the anxiety. Good luck to all with a positive though, I hope this one sticks, and sending love to those for whom it hasn’t worked this time.

Thanks @PrincessofLiechtenstein ❤️

My test this morning was very similar to yesterday (maybe slightly lighter) so I’m just hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. Going to step away from the tests now and just hope that I see some improvement in a few days. As expected the clinic just said it’s still really early and ‘a line is a line’. I’m booked in for a 7 week scan on the 25th so I just have to wait and see what happens and try not to let the anxiety get the best of me. It’s so hard though. Good luck to everyone else testing today 🤞