To do another round of IVF..

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I’ve had 3 rounds of IVF ICSI , out of 3 rounds and 47 eggs only 1 ever blastocyst a 4BB that became our little miracle babe who is 4.5 months old. My partner has severe MFI with high DNA fragmentation of the double variety. We recently saw Mr J Ramsay and he informed us that we only ever had 10% chance of IVF working with all the new research that has come out. It did and we’re over the moon with our DS. I’m 37 and I’m still desperate to have another baby. At the same time feel selfish for wanting another when I have one with such low chances. I am prepared to do another round but think I could be wasting £10k+ when I could use it for DS future. Would you go ahead and do another round for another chance? Even though the chance is still 10% . I can always earn moremoney!

It’s such a difficult decision. I have no suggestions but am with you as I am in a similar situation. We were given a 5% chance of ivf working due to extreme MFI. We were lucky enough that our first embryo worked and I have a 5 month old. We do have a second embryo in the freezer but it’s not the best quality. I would love DS to have a sibling but have toyed with the idea of doing another round to bank more embryos while I’m the right side of 40. At £15k a go for a 5% chance is difficult, as like you I could spend that money on DS. At the same time I feel like we’ve had our “luck” to have our little miracle baby

Go for it!!! If you have a chance at expanding your family and that's a dream you have then I say do it. You will never know unless you try and if you dont, you will always regret it and have the "what ifs" hanging over your shoulders, its worked once before for you and as you know in your circumstances, it only takes one embryo. Your not being selfish what so ever because you want to expand your family. Your entitled to have as many children as you and your partner desire, you just have to be willing to fight for it. Your current bubs is not going to miss out if you spend money building your dreams, you will always have a chance at making more money and more memories, but you dont have all the time left in the world to go continue through ivf procedures. Good luck .

This decision is incredibly difficult. If I were in your shoes, I’d probably choose not to go through another treatment and instead focus on building a life with a child in another way. But at the same time, I know that miracles do happen—and sometimes against all odds.