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Secondary infertility

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CharlotteRae · 03/06/2025 18:11

Hi, wondered if anyone else is in a similar boat, would be good to chat to others!

I Have a 9 year old daughter from a previous relationship, and have been trying for over 2 years now for another baby with my now partner. We got a positive test last July but unfortunately it didn’t work out and I think it was a chemical. The annoying thing is the fertility nurse said that start the time trying to conceive from that positive even though it’s actually been 2 years 5 months. It’s really frustrating as my first daughter was a total surprise (I was 27 then) all be it a brilliant one. My partner now doesn’t have any of his own children although is fantastic with my daughter. We have had tests, he is absolutely fine, I was diagnosed with likely PCOS so have been taking a low dosage of metformin for a few months now. I do have fairly regular periods ranging from 28 - 35 days and bloods show my egg supply is good and that it looks like I am ovulating successfully. So why am I not falling pregnant 😭 at my last fertility appointment it was agreed we would get my tubes checked so when I come on my period which is any day I will ring book that procedure in. I don’t think we want to go down the IVF route just now, I know there are plenty of women that go on to fall pregnant later than age 37 but can’t help but worry time is ticking! The irony of the situation of finally being in secure and happy relationship and choosing to have a baby is really tough! Want nothing more than my daughter to have a sibling and for my other half to have his own child.. if you’ve got this far thankyou for reading! Sorry for the vent! X

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CharlotteRae · 03/06/2025 18:12

Any success stories would be greatly appreciated!

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Tigerlillyrose · 03/06/2025 21:41

I can’t give you a positive story but just to say we are in pretty similar situations. I was pregnant at 27 unexpectedly, who is now 7, been trying for 2 years, one miscarriage last year but nothing since. Suspected PCOS and waiting for the hycosy appt but no meds yet as apparently I can’t get them on NHS. Irregular cycles like yours but looked like I was ovulating on the scan. Just so frustrating and feel like people don’t take you seriously as you already have a child, or they say it will happen as it has before. You’re not alone! Hope you get some progress soon x

CharlotteRae · 04/06/2025 09:45

Oh sorry to hear you’re in the same boat, totally get what you mean about not being taken seriously when you already have a child. I know being an only child is totally fine and they don’t know any different but I love my relationship with my brother now we’re adults and I always feel so bad for her not having anyone to play with like all of her friends. I don’t know if I’m hoping for there to be bit of a blockage or not on the scans, as would mean at least I know why it’s not happening, although I guess that is more final so then hope would really be lost! I think I really need to focus on exercise and eating well over the next few months and see if that has any impact. Not that I eat badly and my BMI is in the normal range but before I had my daughter I was always really slim and I think the extra weight I carry now is not how I should be if that makes sense! When will you have your tubes checked? X

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Clocloxx · 05/06/2025 12:59

It took me 4 years and 3 rounds of ivf to fall pregnant after I conceived my dd now 7 so easily, have you looked into getting a Hysteroscopy too see what's going on in there? Any scar tissue etc can be removed which could stop any embryos from been implanted

CharlotteRae · 05/06/2025 14:15

Well strangely iv been waiting to come on as on cycle day 1 I was meant to book in for that procedure for them to have a look, but I didn’t come on and I have had a positive test! 🙈

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Tigerlillyrose · 05/06/2025 17:33

oh my gosh that's fantastic news :) gives me some reassurance it might just be a time thing. fingers crossed for you, and good you don't have to go for the horrible test! I am not sure how long I will need to wait for mine. I am planning ringing up as if it's absolutely ages then wonder if I would just be better off going private!

CharlotteRae · 05/06/2025 18:50

Gosh definitely do not give up, we DTD way more this month as my partner said he didn’t think we were having enough! I begrudgingly went along with it so now he’s thrilled with himself 😂 I also made a point of sitting with my legs higher for a few minutes after each time (looked crazy 😜) so worth a try!

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