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Overcoming the trauma of failed embryo transfer

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BreakfastOats · 03/05/2025 17:53

Does this feeling of deep loss get better and how can I come to terms with the possibility of never having a child? I dealt with the failed transfer alright but we went to see my consultant and he couldn’t access our notes. We have 2 blasts in the freezer (not tested) but he started by saying that we could do another ivf round with more drugs (lots of detail around the drugs) to fix the fact that we only collected 4 eggs due to my low AMH. During the appointment I started thinking that this can’t be my life. I’m not strong enough for all this. I struggled to make the decision to have one round of IVF as I got cold feet before starting treatment. When we eventually managed to mention the embryos he said that they will stay frozen and lots of couples like banking more and more embryos. He eventually talked about lots of blood tests and biopsies I could do before another transfer but he said these are usually done after multiple implantation failures. I have feelings of deep regret for not starting ttc sooner (started at 33 now 35 classed as unexplained). I feel like my body is failing me. Starting a family was meant to be a happy time in our lives but instead it’s turned into tears, pain, loss. I want to feel like myself again but it’s really difficult. I know so many other women on here who are strong and do multiple rounds of IVF till they get their miracle. I wish I was like that but I’m not :(

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BreakfastOats · 11/05/2025 16:43

Hope you’re recovering well @worldwidetravel2017

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worldwidetravel2017 · 11/05/2025 18:27

Nk11 · 05/05/2025 20:54

@BreakfastOats I should add it was doing the PGT testing that led us to finding our successful embryo. Something the NHS clinic wouldn’t cover and nobody really recommended it to us especially as our embryos were already frozen. It cost about £5k but narrowed down 6 embryos to 2 and the first one of those we tried worked so in our case it definitely was worth not having more failed transfers. It took us 5 transfers of let’s just see if the next one works, let’s add in more drugs and see if the next works before we actually just scaled it all back tested the embryos and let my body just decide which it did.

The last sentences in that post of yours resonated

Weve just paid 3600 for testing ( pgta )
Of 6 embryos

worldwidetravel2017 · 11/05/2025 18:30

BreakfastOats · 11/05/2025 16:43

Hope you’re recovering well @worldwidetravel2017

Thank you
Currently have my period

Currently waiting for pgta results

They are due any time from Wednesday

( theres like a 10 day window )

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