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Failed double transfer

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Nickeigh · 10/04/2025 11:23

Hi all,

I'm feeling quite deflated and im sorry for any TMI in advanced.

I'm 10days post transfer. I started having brown discharge Tuesday evening, but it was only briefly. I contacted my clinic and informed them and they told me to continue taking the pessaries as this was normal eventually it stopped.

Wednesday I started bleeding. It was no longer brown but red. At this point I believe I have started my period as it was more than the day before. I took a pregnancy test even though the clinic said not too. It was negative.

Today I've woken up and I felt like I was definitely full flow so I decided not to take my morning pessaries. I've spoken to the clinic who have stated to continue still taking the pessaries and not to test until the OTD. I feel like this is just prolonging the inevitable. I know my body. I know it hasn't worked. To bleed this much wouldn't be normal. Why continue with the unnecessary torment of taking medication I dont know.

They said it could be a passing hematoma and sometimes people just bleed and they don't know why. At this point I feel like I can safely say it hasn't worked though. Maybe I could be over thinking, but deep down I know im not.

This was NHS funded also because my fiance has a blocked sperms duct that they've been unable to clear. I've got no frozen embryos. We went from 12 to 4 to 2 that were ungraded that they put in me and hadnt reached the bastocyst stage. So now it'll be starting again at full price as only the first round is free.

I just feel like I got my hopes up :(

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waitingforourmiracle · 10/04/2025 11:58

Sending love, it's such a difficult journey 💛
When is OTD x

Miraclemuma03 · 10/04/2025 12:28

I'm so sorry. Ivf is so hard and so much goes wrong. When is your otd? I'd say if you tested at 10dpt and you got a clear negative then it hasn't worked. The ivf clinic tells you to continue your medication because they are liable if for some reason on the otd you get a positive. Testing early comes with its own risks and I guess they give you a set day to do a test because with a transfer anything is possible and there have been cases of late implantation occurring.

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Nickeigh · 10/04/2025 12:47

waitingforourmiracle · 10/04/2025 11:58

Sending love, it's such a difficult journey 💛
When is OTD x

My OTD is the 14th April. Its just horrible to know i know the end result x

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Nickeigh · 10/04/2025 12:49

Miraclemuma03 · 10/04/2025 12:28

I'm so sorry. Ivf is so hard and so much goes wrong. When is your otd? I'd say if you tested at 10dpt and you got a clear negative then it hasn't worked. The ivf clinic tells you to continue your medication because they are liable if for some reason on the otd you get a positive. Testing early comes with its own risks and I guess they give you a set day to do a test because with a transfer anything is possible and there have been cases of late implantation occurring.

I guess so. Its just im full flow on my cycle and I'd rather they just be honest and say it most likely won't change, but we just need you to test on your final test date and we'll go from there. I feel like they're giving me false hope even though I'm passed hoping x

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Miraclemuma03 · 10/04/2025 12:53

@Nickeigh i completely get it. Iv just done a full cycle and ended up with no embryos. 2 are being watched over night to see if there is late fertilisation but in all honesty I know the outcome but I'm still told to start my progesterone just incase we get an embryo to transfer. Iv lost all hope at this point. Hubby asked me to take my progesterone so I did but I really wasn't going to bother. It's heartbreaking enough given the bad news let alone having to play along in hopes for a miracle that is the exception and not the rule.

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Nickeigh · 10/04/2025 13:03

Miraclemuma03 · 10/04/2025 12:53

@Nickeigh i completely get it. Iv just done a full cycle and ended up with no embryos. 2 are being watched over night to see if there is late fertilisation but in all honesty I know the outcome but I'm still told to start my progesterone just incase we get an embryo to transfer. Iv lost all hope at this point. Hubby asked me to take my progesterone so I did but I really wasn't going to bother. It's heartbreaking enough given the bad news let alone having to play along in hopes for a miracle that is the exception and not the rule.

Its soul destroying. There is so much build up and then it gets ripped away.
I have no idea how we're going to fund the next round. We are looking into a monthly payment plan with Kandoo if we even get approved.

Its just now i feel like I'll be going into the next round not as positive and not as hopeful which is noway to start. My best friend is on her 3rd round and she just got a positive test. I just wish I could feel the same happiness.

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Miraclemuma03 · 11/04/2025 08:15

Nickeigh · 10/04/2025 13:03

Its soul destroying. There is so much build up and then it gets ripped away.
I have no idea how we're going to fund the next round. We are looking into a monthly payment plan with Kandoo if we even get approved.

Its just now i feel like I'll be going into the next round not as positive and not as hopeful which is noway to start. My best friend is on her 3rd round and she just got a positive test. I just wish I could feel the same happiness.

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I have always said that ivf is not for the weak willed. You gotta fight for every step. Your next cycle might be a better cycle. I understand the worry about finding the funds to continue treatment. We are about to go through the same thing as in finding the money for another round.

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Nickeigh · 11/04/2025 13:16

Miraclemuma03 · 11/04/2025 08:15

I have always said that ivf is not for the weak willed. You gotta fight for every step. Your next cycle might be a better cycle. I understand the worry about finding the funds to continue treatment. We are about to go through the same thing as in finding the money for another round.

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Finding the finances is really hard. We're currently finishing paying off a wedding. If I knew fertility was going to be an issue I would have chosen a baby over a wedding and just had a more intimate ceremony. Just hard when you feel like you've run out of options

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blacksnow · 11/04/2025 17:31

I am so sorry, sending virtual hugs

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