Old friend has stopped speaking to me now she has conceived

[Strawberryicecream281]

Hello! We're both nearly 30 and have been friends since we were 5. We have grown apart in adulthood but I was still her only bridesmaid at her wedding in September.

I've been TTC for nearly two years, low AMH and endometriosis. I'm going to do IVF this year.

I shared this with her last year and she said she was going to TTC once married and she got pregnant literally the first month. She was a bit insensitive taking about TTC but she can be like that.

She didn't tell me she was pregnant, she just didn't speak to me until January. She then asked in a token way how I was, ignored my response and told me she was pregnant and that she didn't want to upset me. I then said congratulations etc and she hasn't replied to me since then.

We are not close friends and she doesn't actually have many friends at all. I appreciate she probably feels awkward talking to me now but I'm surprised at how rejected and low this has made me feel.

On the other hand she can be quite tactless and I am relieved I don't have to hear all about her pregnancy. But I am feeling very low and hopeless about our infertility at the moment and this has hurt me.

I just wanted to share this with people who may understand, thanks x

I have had similar experiences with a few of DH family, they will either hide the pregnancy completely or mention it very close to due date. I don't understand why, my friends have suggested it's to spare my feelings but I actually feel abit insulted by that, why would they think am not happy for them? Thankfully my own family know me much better and I get to join in the excitement when someone announces their pregnancy. Infertility can be devastating in its own right, but sometime these sort of experiences really break you.

Thank you for your reply, and I'm sorry you've experienced the same. It really adds to the isolation doesn't it. I'm glad your family still include you, but you're right sometimes it's these experiences that really break you! Especially as my friend and I used to talk a lot. Thanks x