Can’t see myself ever being pregnant

[RoseannesMamma]

Hi everyone,
We’re about to start IVF after having a miscarriage and 4 chemicals in less than a year and then nothing since. We have a daughter already so we’re going private. But my issue is I can no longer see myself being pregnant again even though I desperately want to be. I’m well aware that IVF isn’t a magic solution but I just can’t see at the moment how someone who’s had 5 losses in a row can carry another baby. We’ve done all the basic testing and it’s all ok. I think I’m just in a funny headspace at the moment. It happens doesn’t it? People do get their baby after so many losses, right?

Struggling a bit mentally again today. Any words of wisdom?

@RoseannesMamma I’m so so sorry to hear about your losses, each one must have been completely heartbreaking, and with having them one after the other like that it must have really put you through the emotional wringer - I’m not surprised you’re struggling mentally at the moment ❤️

I don’t have any experience with losses personally, as I’ve not yet managed to get pregnant, but I have heard of people that have gone on to have success after multiple losses. People absolutely do get their babies after losses.
What has your IVF clinic said about it? Will you be doing any further tests such as microbiome etc?

Trying IVF now is in a way like trying something new, perhaps there can be some hope in that you’re trying something different?
Sending you a big hug, you’re not alone in this, and I’ve got my fingers crossed for you!

@RoseannesMamma your fertility clinic could provide more thorough testing as to your loses.
There could be so many reasons.
I truly believe my struggles to get pregnant and losing the pregnancy was due to low progesterone, well at least I think it was definitely one aspect in my case as it kept coming back either some months it would just reach the threshold and others too low yet they wouldnt prescribe me progesterone. Nhs faffed me off telling me it was ok when further tests showed it clearly wasn't.
I did ivf last year and was given progesterone and carried my pregnancy successfully.
Have you had progesterone tested ? There are some other tests a fertility clinic could offer such as testing environment ect. Have you been referred to the recurrent mc clinic

Thank you both for your responses @Sunnydaysahead1 @VioIetMoon I really appreciate them.

The clinic are not massively concerned about the losses and said our prognosis is good. I’m 33 with fairly decent AMH. We are going to do a diagnostic hysteroscopy and an endometrial biopsy to check for NK cells. We also may consider PGT-A. There is also suggestion that my progesterone is dropping during my luteal phase but the clinic basically said “well we give you progesterone anyway”!

I like that outlook @Sunnydaysahead1. I will try and remind myself that this is different and the clinic have said we have a good chance!

Have u had your blood clothing time speed tested

Sorry tp hear of your losses

Have u had all the below tested
B12
Feretin
Vit d
Prolactin
Crp
Ca125

Hi @worldwidetravel2017
Thank you! Yes I’ve had a blood clotting panel done which they said was fine.

B12, Ferretin and Prolactin have all been checked around Sept/Oct. Ferritin was lower side of normal but that’s the story of my life! I’m taking 200mg Iron. Vit D wasn’t on the massive list they did that day for some reason so may look into that one. But I do take quite a high dose of it with my supplements!

I’ve never heard of the bottom two so will have a Google!

Crp - inflammation in body

( your body works as a whole - i had to have benign polyps removed from my bowel in colonoscopies )

Ca125
Any chance u might have endo ?
Having that simple nhs blood test done is a quick way to see it your ca125 is normal or abnornal
If consistently abnormal - maybe endo

My tubes are actually blocked
Even tho concieved natutally in past ( but miscarriage)

Had private hyfosy
515 gbp
Faster than NHS.

I also really recommend hertility health
Used them twice
They include amh / ovarian reserve
Which is v hard to get on nhs.

Also test your progsterone 7 days after ovulation. ( test it on a couple of cycles - check number is always well over 30)

Good vit d good feretin and good b12 are all essential

I really rate the book
' it starts with an egg '