For everyone who just feels s**t

[FlutteryButtery2]

Just that really, if you’re feeling s*t and hopeless and alone - come sit and we can feel s*t together

Had a bad weekend and just feel
useless

Things will get better

Hold onto hope

Be kind to yourself

Fav music - fav foods - .. etc

Self care.

Distract yourself - try selling old stuff on vinted ? Or mindful colouring with snazzy metalic pens or hiking?

@Miraclemuma03

I'm sorry to hear all that, sound really tough. I can relate to the food stuff. I've lost weight and am trying to maintain but with all the stresses of IVF, I find myself turning to food as my comfort.

Do you currently do any exercise? I've really found exercise helpful and try to get something in every day - it helps with the weight and also clears my mind.

I also try to keep myself busy with non food activities - being childless on a bank holiday weekend means tbh..I've got nothing to do!! So I'm currently potting up some plants to stop myself from eating the biscuits in the cupboard.

@BussiBop23 thanks for your comment. I just walk around a large lake at our local park a couple days a week, this just seems like the easiest thing to do. TBH i just gave up on exercise when I had my last 2 babies. Turns out it got in the too hard basket when my babies turned out to be highly needy and clingy and instead of fight every day for 20 mins of my own time I just give all my time to them , I carry them and walk the floor with them all day or sit and play with them majority of the time. Just normal every day housework is a mission and I usually have to do it with one of them on my hip. One is 3 and the other is 15mths. I always tell myself they will grow out of it but just hasn't happened yet , my other kids loved joining me in my gym and would workout with me and it was just so much easier and smoother which I thought I'd be able to just continue this but that wasn't the case so pretty much just gave up and it shows. It's my own fault I let myself go and I make excuses because everything seems so hard right now and I'm ready to just give up. But I'm pushing through..

This thread has cheered me up.

Today I’m feeling shit. 18 months in TTC - suspected PCOS but mostly unexplained.
Got Hycosy booked this month.

I’m 35 and no less than 12 of my friends have got pregnant this year.

It just feels like ground hog day and both me and my husband are over it and it’s taking its toll on our relationship too. If I don’t get pregnant with medical assistance this year it’s definitely IVF.

Have u tried hertility health ?

I have pcos
Hh confirmed it for me
Then i added those results to my nhs records

Dya know your amh / ovarian reserve?
Hh check that too
.i highly recommend them

I'm feeling pretty sh*te today. Its 2 years since I got the positive pregnancy test with my 1st pregnancy, which ended in a TFMR. My husband says he doesn't feel bothered by such anniversaries, which I guess is nice for him, but I do and feel pretty dismissed. I'm meant to be starting a 3rd FET cycle attempt later this month, 1st was cancelled and 2nd unsuccessful, and I'm really not feeling at all hopeful of ir working. I've had so many issues with my lining, and recently dealing with a microbiome issue, I just feel cursed.

A friend who has really recently started IVF also messaged me saying they're aiming for a FET really soon, I wish her well after a long struggle but I constantly feel like everyone's overtaking me while I stay in the same spot. We've been doing IVF since September, which I know isn't long in the context of many peoples journeys, but it's felt a long slog and I bet it'll be longer yet, so it feels really hard someone who started a month ago being at basically the same stage!

And this weekend my 2 best mates are having birthday parties for their kids, all my other friends will go, they're super understanding of me not wanting to go but I'm sick of feeling like the odd one out. Argh!!

Would like to say after almost 19 years of feeling like a pile of Sh*T as high as Mount Everest … my fortune turned and I became pregnant
4 m/c 2 chemical and tried every protocol under the sun -immunology issues.
But it took a clinic abroad to think outside the box and recommend immunosuppressants anti rejection pills to literally stop my body rejecting my precious embryos!
it worked ….twins born - AND no morning sickness nothing… unbelievable
took my 20 week scan for it to hit home that I was finally pregnant! For me to acknowledge and believe.
message of hope to you all out there.
i truly hear you. Please focus on being good people do something for charity a kind word … anything to distract you from the pain and longing of being childless.
IT IS AWFUL I won’t deny my 19 years of roller coaster riding.
It will get better just focus on what you can do and keep trying in good faith
May God bless you all with your miracle babies soon
Lots of love and Babydust x

@worldwidetravel2017 i have done hertility and my AMH is 53 and I’ve had internal scans no cysts.

I’m currently on metformin with a Hycosy booked next week.

I then finally get to speak to a doctor!

@Orangewillow I totally get feeling stuck while everyone overtakes.

I had 3 friends struggling with fertility with me who are all now pregnant and I’ve had 18 months with no positives.

It’s really about taking each day as it comes! The struggle bus isn’t fun!

Managing others pregnancies and new babies is so hard! I think it's only a pain you can understand if you've been there. I've been so intensely jealous of my friends being pregnant and so ashamed for feeling that way! Jealously is something we are told not to feel, like we should be able to switch it off if we are a good person... but it just doesn't work like that! Believe me, I would switch it off if I could!

My period came today. Even after 2+years I still get my hopes up. I don't know why I let myself do that anymore.

IVF treatment planning appointment in 2 weeks time. Hopefully from that we will get a start date.

Congratulations! Can I ask what clinic you went with?

At least with ivf planning appt - youll feel things are moving

Hope your journey becomes smoother and with much success
Honestly the years of pain will just melt away together with the jealousy and mixed emotions that come with this infertility journey

Care Nottingham

Nervous 4 my upcoming fet

Feeling sh1t on down reg atm

@worldwidetravel2017 you've got this!! Keep reminding yourself that your capable of this - positive self talk. A bit cheesey but helpful. When is your fet?

We are in the prep 4 it now
We have the meds
And i started down reg

Should get a period next week
Then add in estrogen and blood thinners ..
Scan , progesterone etc

Soon