Going through infertility and currently working with children

[worldwidetravel2017]

Just wondered if there were many people on here who are going through infertility / ivf
And currently work with children ?

If so - how are you finding it ?

Thank you

Yes I'm a Reception class teacher so spend my days working with young children.

Back in 2021 I had a molar pregnancy and then later an ectopic pregnancy that I miscarried naturally. I haven't had any pregnancies since. It has been a difficult few years going through testing etc... While working with 30 constant reminders of what I don't have. However, the kids always have the ability to make me smile each day so it's also a good thing.

I'm currently on buserelin to down regulate which has given me hot flushes and I'm struggling with sleep so I'm exhausted most days! It's hard to keep up with a class of 4/5 year olds at the moment!!

Hi @worldwidetravel2017 , I'm a paediatric speech and language therapist so also work with kids 5 days a week. I can honestly say I find it OK. I can rationalise with the fact that they aren't my children and that I get to have a fun relationship with them. Sometimes when there are child protection issues, I feel my blood boil...why can they have children they don't look after while I'm sitting here barren, but thankfully those cases are few and far between. How are you finding it? Xx

I didn’t work with children but my previous role centred on child protection. I eventually had to leave because it was too awful seeing what absolute scumbags go around having (multiple) children and treating them so awfully. Even the low level Child in Need cases honestly the bar for parenting is set so horribly low and what is deemed ‘good enough’ is appalling.

Many people do find the work difficult (not just me with my infertility) but when there was a really awful case (quite often) other colleagues would say they were going home to hug their children a bit tighter etc.
As an aside it was some kind of hotbed of pregnancies with maternity leave collections and lunch time baby showers all the time too. And constant jokes about who would be next, and comments along those lines.