I have been TTC for about 2 years and am in the queue for IVF with unexplained infertility.
A friend of mine works for the NHS, and when I caught up with her last she said she had been working on an IVF ward. She said there had been a lot of talk about the possibility that females not orgasming may make it harder to conceive.
I had wondered that too, and as she confirmed, the reasoning behind is as simple and obvious as you'd expect - that the convulsions suck up the sperm to your ovaries.
I asked: if this is a genuine and regular topic of conversation in IVF wards, then why isn't it talked about more outside of IVF wards? She said she thought it was because people feel shame about not orgasming during sex.
- Is this a topic other people have heard as potentially having traction?
- If so, why do we feel shame about talking about this!?!
It seems silly that we wouldn't talk about these things if they might help our fertility, which I'm sure everyone here can agree is such a difficult thing to deal with. I know the world presents itself as overtly 'free' and sexualised now, but its a shame if we don't feel like we've created a safe enough environment to talk about not orgasming.
To be honest I either don't cum, or more often I do cum, but way too soon (like an excited school kid). From now on I will try much harder to sync my orgasms with my partner.
If anyone wants to talk about their non-orgasms they can do it with me!