Supporting friend - multiple miscarriages

[namestevalian]

Sorry if not the right thread.

My friend has found out that they are at miscarriage 4 ( potentially 5) late last week and I'm wondering how I can best support her .

I do not have children myself through choice so hope you don't mind me asking how I can support / what is helpful to say / bring / how to be there

Xx

@namestevalian she's very lucky to have a friend like you who reaches out to ask.
I've never been through a miscarriage but after years of infertility my advice would be: 1) to acknowledge just how rubbish it is, avoid too much reassurance as you don't know what the future holds and toxic positivity can be infuriating despite good intentions, 2) ask her what she needs from you - it might be distraction or it might be just to listen and 3) check in with a generic message every so often e.g. 'how are you doing?' - it let's her speak about it or answer generically if she'd prefer not to talk about it.
What a lovely friend you are ❤️

So sorry to hear of her losses

Weve had one miscarriage - was horrific

Always helpful to take her a home cooked meal or some ready meals 4 fridge or freezer

Her fav flowers

Just being with her / listening

Sometimes talking about random stuff

Ask her if she would like to watch a movie with you on Netflix or if she would like to go for a walk with you

Equally , just texting saying im here - if i can help in any way - please let me know
Etc

She maybe angry - i was - again thats totally ok etc

Tommys baby charity are amazing

I turned pain into power by raising money 4 them

As time goes on - she may appreciate u helping her with a charity thing

Miscarriage association are also ace