How do you survive pregnancy announcements and general life in ivf

[confusedivfer]

I'm not even super hormonal as I'm in between cycles but I feel extremely down as only got two blastocysts last cycle and who knows if they're euploid or will stick. I want 2-3 more children so definitely need more embryos.
Hate the fact that friends get pregnant so easily.
Hate my husband for not being as upset as me about it or worried.
Hate my parents for trying to be all positive and light hearted.
Hate nurses at my clinic for being really unhelpful, getting things wrong on a number of occasions and so many other issues.

It's shitty.
In terms of practical survival you build up a tool kit.
Have stock phrases to say and sned to people saying congratulations and presents you can send.
I found after a week or so the feelings would die down as it stopped being a surprise.
Give yourself permission to cry and be upset.
Avoid baby showers and baby birthdays and especially second baby showers .
Have a part of your life that is nothing to do woth ivf - get a new hobby learn an instrument or a language.
Don't put your entire life on hold for a baby. Think about what you want your life to be like and start making some little tweaks now.
Have counselling individually and as a couple
Eat a lot of cake
Avoid people who are really tactless.
Sorry you're going through this. You're not alone

@Campbellcarrotsoup just a couple of questions:
How do I have cake when I'm not meant to have simple carbs / added sugar during ivf (I think egg quality is the issue)
What do I do if my feelings don't die down? Specifically an ex friend (she's an ex friend because she wasn't a great friend to me long before I was ttc but we have quite a few mutual friends, there wasn't a great big falling out so we are still "in touch") and the best way I can describe it is RAGE at her for previous things she's done (tiny if I'm being objective and ages ago, just like making plans then not texting me back until last minute on the day then cancelling, years ago, yes annoying but probably forgivable) ever since finding out she's pregnant. And other close friends - one of my best friends has a 5 month old and it still makes me sad every time she sends pics but I'm obviously so happy to be part of his life. My sister just found out she's pregnant, I love her to bits and I'm so so happy for her , I feel lucky to have her as a sister and want a relationship with my niece but also so sad.
Hobbies outside of IVF... not sure it's much of a hobby but I've got a 2yo DC. I try to focus all my energy on her but cry every day about her not having a sibling.

There is a place for grieving the family you don’t have- it’s really shit what you and your family are going through. But you also need to appreciate what you do have. Your DD, the financial freedom to do multiple rounds of IVF, friends/ family etc. If you are crying every day maybe you should try accessing your clinics counselling service?

Life is short and infertility steals so much, but to a certain extent you have a choice as to how much you let it take. Don’t let it affect your relationship with your sister or niece, husband and parents. At the end of the day it’s those relationships that really matter.

You say you put all your energy into your daughter- maybe you need a hobby that doesn’t revolve around being a mum? Something out the house?

My mantra is comparison is the thief of joy- it’s hard to remember sometimes, but as someone with no children, it’s helped me protect my peace. Wishing you all the best with your next round x

If you can't eat complex carbs you could maybe try paleo type treats? I always aimed for an 80% healthy diet rather than 100% as i didn't feel that was feasible but everyone has to make their own choices through IVF.
I think there's not a quick fix to dealing with the level of rage and jealousy you feel, that's why its more about doing all the other bits and building a life that has more positive things in it otherwise we get dragged down into a bitter sad pit of dispair and it can be exhausting to drag ourselves out.