Coming to terms with IVF

[greendot1]

Due to several female factors and male factor infertility also we've been told ICSI is our only option realistically. We're not ruling out the chance of natural conception in the meantime obviously and praying with every inch but after years of trying we just feel hopeless.

How did anyone come to terms with needing help/science and not being able to do concieve naturally. I'm usually the most positive person but really beating myself up over it and cannot snap out of it. Due to my infertility issues it's been a horrible hard 10 years and it's completely absorbing me.

Note: think you can tell aunt flo's just arrived! 🙈

Honestly once I got past the initial shock I found it an improvement for our relationship could just enjoy intimacy and it was no longer about TTC

now that TTC is off the agenda it definitely made our time together better and relationship stronger

kind to yourself it’s so hard when you first get results and things , on the positive your cycle is here and ready for your appointments

All the virtual hugs xx

I found doing our ICSI round so much easier mentally than the monthly disappointment of TTC naturally. The second guessing of every life style choice, every chocolate bar, every jog, was that what made it not happen this monthz or this?? Etc. It felt so good to be actively doing something and we were successful on our first round, we have a one year old now :) and four embryos frozen. Wishing you all the best x

Hi @greendot1 , I know how feel because I had a really hard time accepting that we needed IVF and used to beat up myself about it a lot. I just felt like a failure and I was very scared of the whole process! But I can only repeat what the previous two posts said: IVF has been a lot easier than trying naturally, I feel like I'm being more proactive somehow and it's nice to have the fertility clinic for support. I think once you've had your initial appointments and things are moving in the right direction, you'll feel better. And connecting with other people who're going through the same really helps, you realise how many people have fertility issues and you feel less alone. Have you made an appointment with a fertility clinic yet?