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FET on Monday and stressing

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AshMapleOak · 20/09/2024 08:08

Hi, hope someone can offer some words of reassurance!

Had FET on Monday.

Was initially quite chilled and sanguine about it – just see how it goes. Then next day was contacted to say it wasn’t possible to freeze any others and since then have felt a lot more tense.

Worrying about lots of things.

Tues I went for a walk and found myself in the sun with no shade – not for long really, 10 mins, followed 10 mins later by maybe another 10-15 mins. Clinic didn’t give any dos and don’ts, but reading around it seems you should avoid getting hot. Even hot showers should be avoided?

Then the next day had a slight tiff with partner – nothing massive, but left my heart racing and body feeling stressed.

Then since yesterday I’ve been away from home – I’m dog sitting for someone (the timing was not planned this way but it’s just how it’s worked out).

Was super chilled day in rural setting and I felt pleased to have the chance to relax! Then yesterday on evening walk the two dogs both rolled in fox poo (I think). Since then have been stressed about parasites and hygiene and have entered into a bit of a Howard Hughes spiral. Today I am cleaning carpets and cleaning dogs (again). Last night I woke about 3 or 4 and didn’t get off to sleep again, just feeling like I’m surrounded by threats and hazards! Was drifting off about 5.30 then the dogs started crying and I was awake and tense.

Now am worried that not having a full night’s sleep will have affected things. Until 5.30 I have felt a specific pain in one side of my lower stomach, but after that it stopped.

My partner was meant to be staying with me first night but decided to schedule our own dog’s dental treatment for the day before (with GA) so then felt he should stay at home.

I was so chilled on Monday and really felt like – what will be will be!

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Sierra26 · 22/09/2024 15:56

Hi OP, how are you getting on? This is late advice but I had a really stressful week when I had my second transfer attempt a couple of weeks ago. Barely managed to fit in the appt around work in the middle of the day. Then went on holiday to a hot country where I’ve been lazing in the sun and hiking!

I had some funny pains too.

And turns out I’m pregnant :) 4w+3d. Had first very faint line at 5dp5dt, and tests have been getting stronger since then.

LongerthanMrTicklesarms · 23/09/2024 00:40

OP you are getting to that point of the process where your mind could really do with some distraction. None of what you have described will make your FET work or not. But, I have done exactly the same thing, several times. And if I think about it the time that it worked was a uniquely stressful time that when I look back I don't know how I got through it at all, but I did and I was pregnant. I hope you will be able to update in a few days to say that you are.

Congratulations @Sierra26 I have never tested early but it must be nice to see that line progression!

PMAmostofthetime · 23/09/2024 13:00

I had unsuccessful and a success transfer, the time I was successful I stoped over analysing. I did everything right the first time and AF showed up 9dp5dt

The successful transfer I decided what would be would be and avoided heavy lifting only.

I had a positive text 9dp5dt l. My little one is now a toddler and the journey seems lifetimes away and yesterday all at the same time.

My only advise drink lots of water and lucozade sport. Be kind to yourself and distract yourself x

AshMapleOak · 28/09/2024 14:09

Sierra26 · 22/09/2024 15:56

Hi OP, how are you getting on? This is late advice but I had a really stressful week when I had my second transfer attempt a couple of weeks ago. Barely managed to fit in the appt around work in the middle of the day. Then went on holiday to a hot country where I’ve been lazing in the sun and hiking!

I had some funny pains too.

And turns out I’m pregnant :) 4w+3d. Had first very faint line at 5dp5dt, and tests have been getting stronger since then.

Hi, thanks for taking the time to reply, really appreciate it! And congrats :)

I’m actually feeling loads better now – the panic has subsided! Actually quite glad to be here as I’m on my feet all day and getting lots of fresh air – although it’s strictly leads on now as I have gone right off fox poo 😂😂

Lazing in the sun and hiking sounds fantastic – I’m in Wales so it’s pretty… damp 😂

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Sierra26 · 28/09/2024 15:06

@AshMapleOak still sounds like a great getaway! Have you tested yet?

AshMapleOak · 28/09/2024 16:58

Sierra26 · 28/09/2024 15:06

@AshMapleOak still sounds like a great getaway! Have you tested yet?

No, not yet – due tomo..!

Also going home tomo so either way will be looking forward to chilling and being released from my duties 😆

How are you getting on? 🙂

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AshMapleOak · 28/09/2024 16:59

ooh may I ask as well – what does 5dp5dt mean? I’ve seen these abbreviations a lot and always mean to ask!

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PMAmostofthetime · 28/09/2024 19:30

AshMapleOak · 28/09/2024 16:59

ooh may I ask as well – what does 5dp5dt mean? I’ve seen these abbreviations a lot and always mean to ask!

5 days past a 5 day transfer so a 5 day fertilise egg was transferred 5 days ago.

Sierra26 · 29/09/2024 16:19

Yes 5 days post 5 day embryo transfer.

You’re far more patient than me if you were able to wait until today to test! Hope you have a good outcome 🤞🏻

AshMapleOak · 29/09/2024 16:31

Sierra26 · 29/09/2024 16:19

Yes 5 days post 5 day embryo transfer.

You’re far more patient than me if you were able to wait until today to test! Hope you have a good outcome 🤞🏻

I didn’t know you could test sooner! I may not even be able to test today as the shops are shut now 😆 (Been a busy day!)

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AshMapleOak · 29/09/2024 16:31

Sierra26 · 29/09/2024 16:19

Yes 5 days post 5 day embryo transfer.

You’re far more patient than me if you were able to wait until today to test! Hope you have a good outcome 🤞🏻

And thank you 🙂

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PMAmostofthetime · 29/09/2024 19:18

@AshMapleOak I got my BFP ( big fat positive) 9dp5dt. On my failed cycle AF showed up day 9 so when it didn't on 2nd cycle I caved and tested

Collect first wee in the morning and store it and then go get a test. It gives the best results. Get a Frer ( first response test) they are pink dye and more accurate.

Good Luck

AshMapleOak · 29/09/2024 19:33

PMAmostofthetime · 29/09/2024 19:18

@AshMapleOak I got my BFP ( big fat positive) 9dp5dt. On my failed cycle AF showed up day 9 so when it didn't on 2nd cycle I caved and tested

Collect first wee in the morning and store it and then go get a test. It gives the best results. Get a Frer ( first response test) they are pink dye and more accurate.

Good Luck

Thanks for responding! And congrats :) Does AF mean period? Sorry I’m rubbish with all these abbreviations 🙈

I had no idea you could test earlier!

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PMAmostofthetime · 30/09/2024 20:13

Yes AF is period sorry, did you test today? X

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