Transfer at double digits

[BewilderedBee]

I'm about to do my 10th embryo transfer. Some have been double transfers so this will be our 13th embryo being used. I've had one chemical, two missed miscarriages, an ectopic, and two other miscarriages. So 6 transfers have resulted in BFPs in various ways.

The reason we can't get pregnant naturally is that my tubes are stuck from scarring from previous abdominal surgery. Doctors have been very clear ivf is the only way for us.

I know at this point so many would have stopped, and there are times where I just can't cope with it and think it is foolish to keep going. Yet I can't accept that ivf won't work for us. We're very good at making embryos and we've never had concerns raised about egg quality or sperm quality. Ive done a range of protocol including reproductive immunology ones.

Are there many others out there like me, or people who have eventually had success after similar number of transfers? I'm losing hope all the time yet have seen a few on Instagram who have finally got there - 15th transfer and one at 17th. For most people it obviously works before it gets to double digits!

Hi, I just wanted to reply and reassure you that you’re not alone. I don’t have a success story I’m afraid and I’m a bit earlier on the path than you, but I could have practically written your message! I have done 4 transfers, 2 chemicals and 2 BFN, all from the first round. All embryos were graded highly, no issues on any other testing but my fallopian tubes are blocked from previous surgeries. I am now debating doing another round whilst frantically researching any other possible more natural options (since further surgery is off the table!). Sorry, I feel like this isn’t particularly a positive message of hope but wanted you to know, you are not alone and if you have the funds and the emotional strength, I definitely think it’s worth keeping going.

@clazbear thank you for your replying. It such a scary place to be as I've always had so much hope and like you, our embryos are very good quality. There is no explanation whatsoever and after so many failed cycles it's terrifying that we may never have a baby. Most people usually go on to have success but I don't know many who have gone as long as we have with no success. There's a small few I know of on instagram. It's hard to keep going! Yet stopping is even is harder! I've always believed ivf would eventually work for us!