How difficult is it to get donor sperm?

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Some marriage difficulties, my husband has threatened to leave. In all honestly the only thing I'm sad about is that it may delay my fertility journey so... how easy is it to get donor sperm?

Financially I can 100% do it solo, I'm a stay at home mum to a toddler so would likely get primary custody over toddler. Maybe a bit difficult if time wise that means I need to be doing lots of applications, research or tests?

Also very easily able to finance the sperm if they're costly but from what I understand they're far cheaper than donor eggs?

Not super picky over characteristics like hair colour and eye colour but I guess I'd like the child to look like me so likely to go for someone with brown hair, blue eyes (but wouldn't decline someone with other colours)

Getting donor sperm can only be done through a fertility clinic, and my understanding is that UK clinics will not treat you as a single woman if you're still married due to legal complications over who would be the parents of any child conceived.

You may want to speak to your local clinic, but you will likely need to wait until you are divorced to follow this route.

@kirstysmbc I'd happily travel abroad if need be. Or if it's really likely to be a slow process either abroad or in uk I'm sure I can find an in person sperm donor, in exchange for a pleasurable night 😂

I think you need to do some reading about donor conception and how to support a donor conceived child etc. It's.not something to jump into lightly.

KirstySMBC is right that clinics in the UK and probably most of Europe will not treat a married woman as single.

My wife and I used a sperm donor and both had to sign all the consents. Your husband would be the child's legal parent if you do not get divorced first, regardless of how you go about getting pregnant.