How to handle toxic positivity from husband

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How do you deal with toxic positivity from
a partner following a loss? Unsolicited comments like why can’t you be grateful for the child we have (I am!!!), we have our hands full now anyway, making a point that even if I never get pregnant again we can adopt. There is no reason why I shouldn’t try again and hopefully I can get pregnant again but he just invalidates any desire or emotion I might have. Then denies he’s doing it. Please help I can’t handle it. Thx

I’m so sorry you're feeling this way. To handle it, try talking to him about how his comments make you feel. Let him know what’s helpful and what’s not. It might help to get some counselling together.

Share with him how his comments make you feel. Use “I” statements to express your emotions without placing blame, like, “I feel invalidated when my feelings are dismissed.”

Let him know which types of comments or behaviours are not helpful to you. Explain that while you understand his intentions, you need space to express your feelings without judgment.

And try to understand his perspective as well. Sometimes, people offer toxic positivity out of a lack of understanding about how to support you.

I wish you both all the love & light in the world, as you navigate together 🙏🏽

P.S. men think differently to women, and vice versa!