Worried about how long I have left :(

[Spinkyttc]

Hi guys,

I sadly miscarried at 6 weeks. Me and my OH have decided to have a break as we are in the process of moving and the stress isn't helping. I'm 28, and we have both said in the next few years we'd like to have children.

I am so worried about my fertility, and that my eggs are just disappearing. My OH doesn't really get it and just thinks what's the rush, but I am obsessed that by the time I'm 30 I'll have run out of eggs and won't be able to conceive.

Am I being stupid? I did do a hertility test last October which said my AMH was 47pmol/l which is super high. I did one just before I found out I was pregnant with a different company and it had gone to 30pmol/l! So I'm worried it's dropping quickly... any reassurance would be great! Thanks IA xx

Sorry about your mc. I would question the reliability of those tests tbh. It's better to get fertility clinic testing. You're still young and your numbers are better than mine. My AMH was 11.4 4 years ago at 31. I have a 3 year old conceived naturally (after failed IVF). It only takes 1 egg.

I also forgot to mention, I had an AFC done in October last year which was 27, and one done last month which was 19... so it had dropped

Anyone else?? X

Your amh is very high? Mine was 0.8 at the age of 29. I'm 31 now and have never retested.

I think your over worrying

I am over worrying, it's ridiculous! My anxiety around my fertility is ridiculous. Was your reading in pmol/l? X

Do you still have regular periods and ovulate?

@Spinkyttc I’m so sorry that you had a miscarriage. Try to mind yourself. I think AMH on its own isn’t an accurate measure of fertility. Have you had an AFC (antral follicle count) done at all? Clinics would generally look at this result with your AMH and results of your partners sperm analysis to help make predictions about your fertility. You really do
have time on your side as you are so young. I think an opinion from a medical professional would be best to put your mind at ease.

Yeah it was pmol/l the clinic actually retested me because they thought it might have been a mistake because I am so young and yes I have very regularly 28 day periods and do ovulate on day 14 my cycle is textbook. I am told I'll go ture menopause by early 30s 😢
So far I've had 2 failed ivf cycles never getting a good egg.
So honestly I don't see any issues with your amh you will be fine 🙂

Oh I'm sorry :( that must be really hard, however it seems strange that your periods are normal as when approaching menopause they usually became sporadic or stop altogether. At what age did your mum go through menopause as this can be an indicator for yourself? X

Nothing sounds alarming to me regarding your amh.
I understand your anxiety, but anxiety is a fertility killer.
I just had my first baby at 38 through ivf. Couldn't get pregnant in my 20s / early 30s to save my life.
I highly doubt your going to run out of eggs in the next few years. Just relax . Sending you lots of baby dust

My AFC was 3. FSH was 11.3. My clinic told me to do IVF straightaway as on paper my reserve is crap. I have 6 frozen blastos and a dd conceived naturally. Gently, I think you need to stop over thinking it, and deal with the numbers you have - they're great.

@Spinkyttc have you considered freezing your eggs if you are worried?
Your numbers are great, but I understand the concern, at that age I wish we had considered our future. We thought we'd start trying at 30 but then Covid happened, wedding delayed, moved house and waited until 2022. 2 years later still nothing, (although we had male factor issues) and wish we had got our tests sooner. Maybe you can consider both of you getting tested and making a plan from there?
We've been through a couple of rounds of IVF this year and finally got our bfp aged 34. You've still got time!

If I had the money to do so I would, but it's just not something I can afford unfortunately x