8DP5DT - just need some support!

[lisbeth1]

Hope everyone is doing well! Just messaging as I need some words of encouragement really. I know what will be will be so really I just need some support.

My wife and I are on our second FET following three failed IUIs and one failed FET. This time I promised my wife we would wait until at least 8DP5DT to test, well this is what happened so far:

1. 4DP5DT - felt lots of pulling sensation in my uterus for about 30 mins when sitting down. Felt really happy and positive as just felt like it had worked this time.
2. Yesterday at 7DP5DT, went to the loo and brown spots in my underwear (sorry about TMI incoming) and wiped and had light pink bleeding. Cue panic that my period was starting and frantic call to wife, then went out to buy a pregnancy test and drank about two pints of water to be able to test. Was surprised to get a faint positive in the afternoon (5pm)! First ever BFP, yay. But still very confusing as seems too late for implantation.
3. We tested this morning with FMU around 5am so 12 hours later hoping for a darker line as the one at 5pm day before was after drinking a lot of water, but were disappointed to see it was lighter than the first one had been. They have dried to about the same colour.
4. I also dipped at the same time this morning a less sensitive test and it came up with a better line than the more sensitive one!
5. At 10.30am this morning I took a first response rapid result and got a faint line and that's meant to be not as sensitive a test
6. Just took ANOTHER test this afternoon but on a different brand as ran out, at 5pm (that's 4 tests today.... oh god) and it's still positive but very faint

I'm so so so worried that we've caught a chemical pregnancy taking place and I really need to reign it in on the obsessive testing.

Does anyone have any kind words for me? Feel like I'm slowly losing it...x

@lisbeth1 congratulations on a great start! I was in a similar situation as you a few weeks ago with the pulling sensation and what sounds like implantation spotting. Currently waiting on my first scan. TBH I think you need to only test the first urine of the day especially when you are so soon after your transfer. If you read the test leaflets it will tell you that it should be the first urine until you reach your usual period date. I would stick with the same test type as that will help you see the development and also someone advised me to not compared from one day to the next e.g. 9dpt with 10dpt and instead compare tests that are two or more days apart so you can be clear on progression. Does your clinic check your HCG? I got mine done at 9dpt and 12dpt for some reassurance.

thank you so much for your response and good luck for your upcoming scan <3

My usual period date should be today...I don't know if that means the line should be darker, isn't 8dp5dt equivalent to 13DPO? I hate this, I just want to be excited!

I‘m not sure exactly of your dates but my clinic looks for urine test results from 12dpt :) Fingers crossed for you :)

Hi @lisbeth1 . Just wanted to share my experience from my second transfer in January. I had brown and pink spotting with cramping from 5-7 days post transfer. I got a faint positive 7 days after like you. I know it’s much easier said than done particularly with everything we go through to get to this point, but I would personally recommend against serial testing re line strength and especially across different brands. I found a digital one to confirm helpful. I really hope things work out for you 🤞🏻 When is your official test day from the clinic?

Thanks for responses. OTD is Monday. Had a test this morning (9PD5DT) and sadly looking really faint so I’m guessing the bleeding early this week was a chemical happening. Only one frozen embryo left in storage. This is soul destroying.

Our OTD is on Monday 24th so will see what happens then...I have no idea if they do a blood test because I've never had a positive result! I have a 1-2 on a Clearblue digi this morning but all the other tests are still faint and ClearBlue in my opinion have historically not been reliable. So I think we're bracing ourselves for a chemical, would have expected some strong lines by now. Thanks for your kind words :)

thanks lovely - I have done an obscene amount of tests, it's horrible isn't it! Going to try not to test now until OTD on Monday. I so desperately want it to be a strong positive but I'm not feeling too hopeful to be honest.

@lisbeth1 hoping for the best for you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻💓💓💓💓💓💓

I just wanted to close out this thread because I know from experience how much I need to know what happened when reviewing old threads!

Our tests got darker on 10DP5DT transfer so we were hopeful but sadly they continued to fade to a negative by test day, so we obviously captured a chemical/miscarriage taking place.

My hope for anyone reading this with fading tests is that you don't have the same experience and go on to have a healthy, happy baby <3

For us, it's on to the next try with our last frozen embryo in the bank x

So sorry to hear this @lisbeth1 . Look after yourself. All the best for your next transfer xx