Bad news for me. End of the road for us.

[Khanny]

Hi everybody, not really sure why I am coming to post other than to say it is the end of the road for us sadly. I feel numb and absolutely devastated that there is nothing we can do. Basically I got the call from our private fertility clinic yesterday so say that my blood had come back and my AMH is 0.2, and when I was scanned although they could see a small amount of eggs, there weren't many and the 0.2 AMH means IVF is most likely NOT to work at all. The only option we have is donor eggs and we don't have the money for this route.

Good luck to all you ladies TTC, I hope you get your babies x

I’m really sorry you’re going through this @Khanny I just wanted to give you a massive virtual hug.

I know you have said it is not likely to work but is there still a chance that it could?

@Khanny Hope you can get some support as you process everything. We always said going into this journey that if it didn't work, we'd still have a good life, it would just look different. Not lesser.

@amkw I don't really know what to think at the moment. My husband isn't keen on going down the IVF route because if it fails we can't afford any more rounds, and also if it fails I don't know what it will do to me mentally. I was hoping they would say to me lets try clomid or letrozole but there is no point when I am not ovulating and there isn't much there to force ovulation.

I feel so bad for him, I already have 2 grown up children to a previous marriage but he has none and its so unfair on him. We really hoped to be blessed with at least one child the guilt is eating away at me knowing me and my age are the problem. I feel too young for this and I'm finding it so hard to accept x

@2mumlife Thank you. Its so hard to digest because I have 2 children already to a previous marriage but my husband now has none and we really hoped that we would be lucky enough to have at least one child together. I feel too young for all the changes within my body and I have had zero symptoms of menopause other than my periods have become irregular.

@Khanny So sorry to hear this. Hope you have emotional support around you as you process this information.

As a PP said, try to focus on the good things you have got with you husband and still have a good life.

If money is the only issue for DE treatment, then have you explored going abroad? I found it cheaper overseas but of course it comes with additional complexities like anonymous donors etc. Your age is not a constraint with DE, so it could be an option in the future when your finances permit. But it's important to remember that while DE treatment has very high success rates, it still does not work out for everyone. I am on the DE journey but yet to find success.

Whatever you do, hope you have a happy and fulfilling life.

@Serendipity24 Thank you for your kind words. It doesn't feel real and my husband still keeps saying it only takes one egg, I think he's in denial a little and as we are from a pakistani asian family the constant questions of when are so hard to take and the pregnancy announcements from others are like a kick in the stomach.

I do want to explore DE treatment and will begin to look online at some point xx

@Khanny If finances are the main constraint, you could look into whether you could do an IVF round using Access Fertility - they offer an option to get your money back if you don’t conceive (though it costs more upfront than non-refunded packages). I’m not sure if they have constraints around AMH levels etc but you could explore?

How is your husband feeling about it? If finances weren’t so much of an issue, would he be keen to try IVF / using donor eggs?

@2mumlife I am going to research donor eggs and read some forums/stories.

My husband is a little in denial really and just keeps saying it only takes one egg and as I have some still there on my scan then we could still catch one x

@Khanny Definitely take a bit of time to explore your options. Wishing you all the best for the future no matter what you decide to do x

@Khanny I'm sorry you're going through this. Given your AHM I wouldn't do IVF with your own eggs. I've been doing this for a few years with higher AHM and it's a really hard journey.

Since you mentioned you're from an Asian country, I would suggest you do IVF with DE from your home country or similar, you may be surprised at how much cheaper it is compared to Europe. DE is not a sure deal but you have a much higher chance of success. Also, donors in Asia are quite young, early 20's so better quality.

Good luck!