Some help, please? Getting nowhere.

[MademoiselleFrenglish]

I’m looking for some help, please.

We’ve been trying to conceive for over a year and a half now and I don’t feel I’m getting anywhere with doctors/gynecologists. I don’t feel I have anyone to answer any questions and don’t feel that anyone has actually looked at our “case” in any detail whatsoever, other than asking how many days my cycles are.

I booked in to see a gynecologist and she gave me an internal scan, she found a fibroid of about 3cm and told me I need to get a HyCosy. I’ve been completely unable to even make an appointment for this. My partner had a sperm test about a month or so ago, results seem not great but not terrible but the Gynae won’t even look at them until I’ve had the result of my HyCosy. It’s looking like the sperm test results will be about 3-4 months old by the time I actually get my HyCosy, so the response will likely simply be that he needs to do another sperm test.

We feel like things are at a complete standstill and we haven’t even started, I don’t know how to get things moving, it’s affecting our mental health fairly badly now.

I’m in France, not the UK, but don’t feel that should make much difference. I need to talk to a professional who can give an opinion on our situation, ask me more than 2 questions and actually have a conversation with us, but I don’t know where to look. Ideally I’m looking for some sort of online zoom call with a fertility specialist, does that type of thing exist?

Hi,

Sorry to hear this is affecting your mental health. It really is so tough to go through.

I felt exactly the same as you - gynaes seem focused more on your physical health (which doesn't always impact fertility) and GPs are too generic in their advice. Nothing feels joined up and nothing seems to directly help with assessing your fertility.

My advice, after wasting a lot of time with gynaes and GPs myself over the spave of about a year and getting nowhere, wpuld be to go and see a fertility doctor (usually at an ivf clinic) for a consultation, blood tests for both of you, sperm test and scan plus hycosy. That will give you the best idea of yours and your partner's fertility and what issues you may need to address and how best to address them.

Best of luck on your journey x

I agree with the above poster, see a Fertility Specialist, they don't start with IVF. They will make several tests and offer you other initial treatments. Depending on your age, they will give it sometime to each treatment before upgrading to the next one.