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TTC over 12 months - now 42

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Amum4444 · 30/05/2024 19:52

Hi everyone,
im feeling quite low because after 12 months of trying to conceive nothing has happened. This is secondary infertility and I don’t think my prospects look good. I have tried to get advice from my GP who seems disinterested and I don’t qualify for IVF. I have spent money on private tests but the GP said they are not qualified to help me interpret them so I’ve been frantically googling and they don’t seem good. The first FSH was 8.1 in March and AMH was 2.8 pmol , however I got a second FSh done just a month later in April (day 2 of my cycle and it shot up to 24). How can that be just a month apart? I was heartbroken and I know it can vary month to month but it seems that it’s indicative that maybe I’m too told. I feel depressed as I can’t afford IVF. I wondered if anyone had tried acupuncture? I tried it last month just before ovulation and I felt that my cervical mucus changed during ovulation and I was 2 days late. For those 2 days I thought I might have conceived and felt like I was pregnant but then my period came. I was planning to test the day it came as wanted to leave it as long as possible to avoid any unnecessary disappointment. I am having such a bad period and really bad pain in my back and wonder if I could have had a chemical pregnancy. If it was it could give me hope that the Accupuncture maybe helped. Anyway I just wanted to vent and hear off anyone who had some success stories getting pregnant after 42 with poor AMH and FSH. I find I put my life on hold thinking next month I could fall pregnant and now a year has gone by. I don’t know how I give up on this.

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TT82 · 31/05/2024 08:59

@Amum4444 hi, sorry to read you are going through this, I am in a similar boat, though done ivf
Since I turned 40 we were trying for 3d my baby (2nd my DH), unfortunately delayed due to lots of stupid reasons. First year had 3 chemical pregnancies. Then we went to fertility clinic, they tested, said my hormones super so good chance of ivf. I had another chemical just before first ivf cycle. Then we did 3 egg collections, very high amount, good fertilisation and embryos but we sent all 10 to genetic testing and all abnormal. So in my case no quality left regardless good quantity. I am now 42 too, wont do another ivf as very tough emotionally and very very low chance. They said only donor egg route...
We are still trying naturally these months but beed to put a threshold when to stop as emotionally cannot cope thinking I might concieved and all life on hold. Dr said given my history naturally is very high risk too.
I did acupuncture for 6 mobths, for 2 years on lots of high dose supplements.. Just looks my body says no
We are considering donor route too

Good luck! Xx

Amum4444 · 31/05/2024 09:55

I’m sorry to hear that. I’ve heard IVF is very tough on couples emotionally. It’s so hard admitting to ourselves that the end of the road has come when you continue to live in hope. Has your partner had his sperm tested?
best of luck x

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TT82 · 31/05/2024 10:02

@Amum4444 yes I underestimated the impact of infertility (though secondary, cannot even think how tough for people with primary infertility), and also of IVF.
Yes I read about injections etc, but mental toll, also I had very bad physical reactions to pre-ivf drugs to shut down the ovaries every time.
My husband did detailed sperm testing, all very good (he us 43). Fertilisation and embryo development also good for our age... They just not chromosomally normal 😞
Now I think need time to grieve and come to terms..

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