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Made myself look ridiculous

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ThankyouFriday · 17/05/2024 16:19

Hi,

Ive changed my username as I have posted quite a few times before. Basically I’m going through infertility. Today, sat in work on our lunch and one of the women started a guess the mum game- famous person/character etc. So she would say clues and we would have to guess who the Mum was. Had two/three goes and everyone was having fun then I had this feeling inside that this is more than a random game and it felt like an announcement was coming. At this point, I left the room and went and tried to compose myself for 10 minutes before I would have to plaster on the smiles. It’s not about the other person- it’s about me and my pain. The pregnant woman is perfectly nice.

So there I was on the other side of the building, a colleague that knows what I’m going through sent me a text asking if I’m okay and whether I want her to come to me or to be left alone. A minute later, my line manager arrives shouting oh you’ve missed the happy news person x is having twins!!! Come and join us. I could feel my pain burning away and was dragged back to the room. I just feel like a right t*t.

Start fertility treatment in a couple of weeks. I know nobody has done nothing wrong. I’m currently sat at home and just can’t stop crying. I’ve made up an excuse for why my Mum can’t come round tonight and just want to be a vegetable by myself. Please someone tell me to get a grip.

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MelifluousMint · 17/05/2024 16:39

Aww you’re being really harsh on yourself! Have a good cry, treat yourself to some fancy food and don’t feel bad at all. You didn’t do anything wrong! Sounds like you were being really thoughtful about your colleague, even though you were feeling rubbish yourself. And sounds like you’ve got a colleague who’s also a good friend. Sure your mum won’t mind seeing you another day x

I think the wait before starting treatment can be the most stressful bit – you can’t really do much but wait! And there’s so much uncertainty. Have you been told much of what to expect with treatment? x

ThankyouFriday · 17/05/2024 17:11

@MelifluousMint Thanks. I just didn’t want to steal away her happy moment. I know I start at the end of the month but by this time I’ll be on cd 19 so not sure what happens when. It’s not really been explained what protocol I’m on. I’m hoping they explain more as to what my plan involves on that day.

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CEllenx · 18/05/2024 17:56

Completely normal ! Dont worry I have felt the exact same, and I’m currently going through my first round of IVF .. and I’m a children’s nurse looking after babies all day long ! All of my husbands sisters are getting pregnant and it is heartbreaking to say the least when you just want it to be you. I found myself feeling anger towards them at one point because it just don’t feel fair ! Try not to put pressure on yourself your feels are valid and your allowed to feel like that 🩷

ThankyouFriday · 18/05/2024 23:05

@CEllenx Thank you for the kind message. Where are you up to in the ivf cycle? I pick up my medication at the end of the month.

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CEllenx · 19/05/2024 07:46

@ThankyouFriday i have had my egg collection but have to wait for my frozen embryo transfer now - had a lot of eggs taken so ended up with OHSS! Good luck hope it goes well ! X

ThankyouFriday · 19/05/2024 11:21

@CEllenx oh no!! Hope it all goes well and you don’t have to wait too long for the next stage. X

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