Pregnancy announcements- triggering

[Natty2]

Within 1 month of my last egg collection I've heard 3 pregnancy announcements! It's so tough. I'm so pleased for them, yet so devastated at my own journey at the same time.

We've been ttc for over 2 years and had two rounds of ivf so far this year, no transfers yet as both ended with a freeze all. I know our journey could be successful soon, but I can't help but still be in the mindset of "will it ever work for us".

I know this is going to keep happening, but has anyone found a good way of managing these triggers?

honestly I just block / hide any announcements or chats etc

filter on social media so you don’t see any

I try and keep my life baby free and pregnancy free it’s just best for my mental health

my friends know I would rather not know and if they must tell me to just message

its tough for sure xx

I agree with the avoidance (whether it’s the healthiest approach I don’t know!) I just don’t want to know but can manage to congratulate via text etc. Really triggered by scan pictures (have received 3 in the past few weeks and just waiting on another).

I've basically removed social media off my phone since Jan! It's definitely a good step at trying to avoid, even the targeted ads

Each recent announcement I've had has been in person which has been harder to dodge. Only one of those knew how difficult the news was but others have no idea.
It's such a tough one.

Hope you are both doing ok

@HeyMona omg that is so so cruel honestly I don’t understand why anyone would send a scan , that’s horrible

deffo best to protect your mental health and put yourself first xx

@Rebekah77 those people don’t know about our struggles (makes no difference to how I feel but their intentions aren’t necessarily bad).

But yes do put yourself first is key advice because it’s a very difficult situation.

@GB844 that's all so true. I'm sorry you lost one of your good friendships through this process.
Definitely trying to find ways to focus on putting myself first to make sure I'm in the best mindset for transfer stage
Pleased to hear you finally got your pregnancy, best of luck with the rest of your journey!

Removing social media is a good step I think. I've quietly unfollowed some good friends simply because they are always posting pictures of their babies/ children and I can't cope with it any more.

I'm struggling too with the same sort of things, and I don't have much advice other than try to focus on yourself, any hobbies and interests you have outside of all this.

I have a very strong hobby which I truly believe is saving my life right now (I'm not exaggerating - I think I'd be suicidal without it).

Try to get invested in something just for you that has nothing to do with fertility.

@IVFveteran I'm sorry to hear how you've been feeling. Ive felt the same with my husband, been really lucky to have that support.
How are you progressing on your journey?

@Natty2 Well we've just been denied funding for our final round of IVF, which we were pinning most of our hopes on, so that's sent me spiralling a bit. (We are entitled to three rounds in our area, but we're having to appeal it unexpectedly - we were led to believe we'd be successful so have been waiting a year rather than going private).

I've been off work today :( How about you?

@IVFveteran I'm really sorry to hear that, the whole thing is so unfair. Especially to have had to wait a year for this news.
Good that you managed to stay home today but hope you've managed to look after yourself. (I realised I misread your last post for hubby not hobby! So hope you had time for that?)

We only got one round on the nhs. Naively thought it would be enough at least for a few embryos. We have MFI, so it was a huge shock when my maturity rate for my eggs was really low. (Was a shock to the clinic too!) We ended up with one embryo that was frozen the first time due to high progesterone.
At that time we made the decision to do another round, as if that embryo had taken, it would mean potentially being in a worse situation when trying for a sibling. Second round was better, but ended on another freeze all.
Waiting to transfer, which may be in a month. But always feel like the goalpost moves and never feels like an end is in sight.

If it helps at all, we decided to go through access fertility as it covers of for 2 rounds of EC and FETs until a live birth.

@Natty2 Haha, I do have a great hubby as well, which obviously helps a lot!!

Ours is MFI as well. Sounds like we have quite a lot in common. The two rounds of ICSI we had both only resulted in one embryo, which was not good enough to freeze, so they transferred it and it failed both times. We've moved onto a donor now but I am starting to get concerned about my own fertility too - my AMH has dropped massively since we started all this.

I know that feeling of the goalposts moving, it feels like there is delay after delay after delay sometimes doesn't? And all the while we're getting older :(

I really hope you get a pregnancy from your transfer when it does happen. Everything crossed for you.

@IVFveteran hope you have been feeling ok this week. Good luck for your next steps too!