How do you cope with pregnancy announcements?

[Elisabeth3468]

Everywhere , all the time. A close family member told me today she was pregnant again and her baby is only 3 months old. We've been trying for a second for a year now. It's just broken me and I want to just get on with life but I'm going to be constantly reminded of another pregnancy now.
I don't know what to do with myself or how to cope.
I am happy for her and I understand it's not her fault that we have our issues.
I just want to find away to escape it because it hurts so much.
Why is it so easy for some people?

It's really tough. We've been ttc our first child for over 2 years, had one failed round of ivf and going through a second round
Pregnancy announcements completed break me especially the close ones. I'm not sure how best to cope either!

I feel for you so much. It's the hardest thing and seems so unfair. We had IVF for our first and we are extremely lucky it worked. He's 2 now and I honestly thought I'd never feel like this again, until I started trying for a second!
I am extremely grateful for my child obviously but the pain of infertility never leaves you.
Hope you have some luck soon ❤️

Sending a big hug - it’s so hard. We’ve been trying for our second for just under a year, our first IVF round for our second just failed and one of my friends has just announced her second pregnancy (her first son was born 2 months after my first) but I also know the heartbreak she’s had trying to get her second, multiple miscarriages and I supported her with getting some help into why but I still feel so upset and jealous. As you say, the pain doesn’t leave and it’s so frustrating to think it’s going to be 2-3 months to do another round and again there’s no guarantee of success. Sometimes I pull strength knowing that statistically it means none of my friends should have problem - I’m in the one in 6/8 but not feeling that way at the moment!

I feel you! Both of my younger sisters have had babies in the time we’ve been trying. My friends pregnancies didn’t bother me, but there is something about close family being pregnant that really broke me, maybe it’s that sibling rivalry. I try to compartmentalise whilst I’m with them, however, I make sure to not spend too long with them and am kind to myself after as it’s exhausting holding down your own hurt. It’s easier now my nephews are getting bigger. Wishing us all success soon xxx

I get it, OP. We've been going through fertility treatment for 3 years now. At first, pregnancy announcements didn't bother me too much because I was certain it would happen for us soon. Now, I'm less certain that it will ever be us making that announcement, and it gets harder each time.

There have been a huge number of pregnancies and babies in our family and friendship group over the past year.

Each one is a happy-sad feeling - happy for them, but it also hurts like hell, especially if you know that they weren't even trying for very long.

To be honest the only way I have found to cope with it is to become slightly distant, engross myself in my hobbies and meeting my childless friends more. I guess I just try to distract myself with things that don't involve children.