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Prepping for an FET - tips and tricks after easy ride the 1st time around...

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muddlingthrou · 24/01/2024 15:33

We've just bitten the bullet and paid for a frozen embryo transfer (FET), which we hope will result in the birth of a second child... After getting VERY lucky the first time around and conceiving after our first embryo transfer, I'm really struggling not to get carried away with hope that it'll work first time once again. I KNOW the statistics, so it's more likely it won't than it will. I'm also not sure whether we can afford another go straight away, so I'm trying to temper my expectations.

Any tips on coping with the mental strain? I'm worried I'm going to go completely loopy in the wait between the transfer and the pregnancy test. My DH seems mellow, but I have a feeling he's hiding his hopes from me to try and protect me from feeling any pressure (he's a sweetie like that).

Any similar stories, please? I know how lucky I am to have my gorgeous DD, I am just dreading getting back onto the emotional rollercoaster that is assisted conception. In typing this, I realise I'm probably already there!

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Ellenn · 27/01/2024 10:50

Sorry I don’t have a similar story to you but I can definitely emphathise with your apprehension for another transfer. I found making sure you really take time and look after yourself can help you feel a bit more in control.

I use the headspace anxiety course which is great (there are others too for general meditation). Also this transfer cycle I did a reflexology session that I found really relaxing and would highly recommend!

during the 2WW I like planning lots of nice things and make sure I’m quite busy as it helps to not overthink them you can stay positive. You still have a pretty good chance of a baby from this transfer so I really hope it all goes well for you 😀 xx

AngJo · 30/01/2024 20:06

I got lucky too and have a daughter from my first transfer. Also hoping for a 2nd miracle. I have my FET tomorrow and I'm trying so hard not to get too excited but I can't help thinking it worked first time with my daughter so why not.

I have no tips for dealing with the mental strain of the 2ww sorry. I think it drives everyone loopy. I'm dreading the waiting x

muddlingthrou · 31/01/2024 17:33

@Ellenn - thank you so much for being the first to respond. How did everything go with your cycle? Hoping you got a sticky one! I found your words really reassuring, and you're so right about keeping busy.

@AngJo - also thank you to you for replying! Just knowing I'm not alone is helpful to be honest. Hoping the transfer went amazingly. It sounds like my brain works a lot like yours... Please keep us updated if you can face it xx

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Ellenn · 31/01/2024 17:49

@muddlingthrou only 5dp5dt so still no idea!! Managed to get a horrible cold/flu bug right now though which has stopped me symptom spot every 2 seconds since I just feel awful!

do you know yet when you will get a transfer?

lori2019 · 31/01/2024 18:16

@muddlingthrou I'm in the same boat as you, baby 1 from first round, just one embryo left which we transferred a week ago.

On the countdown to testing but have myself convinced it didn't work. How can I get lightening to strike twice. I am dreading the thoughts of another full round of ICSI but that may be where we are headed.

muddlingthrou · 31/01/2024 19:58

@Ellenn - ohhh best of luck!!! I'm waiting for my period to start to get on meds, so by my calculations my transfer should be around mid to late feb depending on how my lining looks at the first scan. I wish I could just fast forward a month so I could know either way...

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muddlingthrou · 31/01/2024 20:00

@lori2019 - this is exactly how I feel, but please keep the faith! The stats are that once you've conceived by IVF you're more likely to conceive with it again than a first timer, so it could be you just need one transfer 🤞🏽🤞🏽🤞🏽

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muddlingthrou · 31/01/2024 20:01

@lori2019 - how old is your first? My DD is almost two and currently getting her canines, just to add to the fun 😬

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lori2019 · 31/01/2024 20:13

@muddlingthrou he was 2 in Oct. We are well and truly in the tantrums phase! He's smart, cheeky and funny 90% of the time, total nightmare 10% 😂

AngJo · 16/02/2024 09:06

@muddlingthrou The FET worked 😊 feeling extremely lucky two transfers and two pregnancies. I hope that the same happens for you. Do you have any idea when you will have your transfer yet?

I am super nervous something will go wrong. I thought I'd be more relaxed after getting a positive result but I'm the opposite to be honest. Just doesn't feel real

muddlingthrou · 16/02/2024 09:14

@AngJo - what amazing news, congratulations!!! I love love love hearing success stories, and hope your luck will rub off on me. I know what you mean about every new step bringing new worries. I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy. Do you have an early scan booked with your clinic? Hopefully that'll put your mind at rest (a little).

My transfer is on Tuesday. We'll hear on Sunday if the embryo survived the thawing process - fingers crossed it does well!

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AngJo · 16/02/2024 09:43

@muddlingthrou Tuesday will be here before you know it. Wishing you all the luck in the world. I really hope the 2 week wait flys by for you.

I have a scan on 11th March. I'm sure I'll relax after that

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