Hi everyone,
Just needed to brain dump somewhere but would also love any advice/stories of similar situations.
Been TTC for nearly 3 years, all test results normal. Started IVF one year ago, done 1 egg collection with 4 4AA embryos. 1 fresh transfer (resulted in a chemical), 1 FET which failed. There has been some debate over whether I have fluid in my fallopian tubes, been scanned multiple times but nothing conclusive. I have Crohn’s and had 2 major surgeries in the past which have left scar tissue around that area so it’s linked to that I suspect.
The doctor says I should consider surgery to remove this potential fluid however is in 2 minds whether to send me for it as I would be very high risk and they think it could send me into a Crohn’s flare up. I went for a 3D scan yesterday and the sonographer said she thinks it is much worse than first thought with severe scar tissue and fluid in definitely one, potentially both tubes. She said they would refuse to do another transfer currently because I’m too high risk for ectopic etc, but the doctor also said they are reluctant to send me for surgery.
I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like I have done absolutely everything I can to try and resolve this issue (overhauled my diet, exercise, sleep, taking supplements, stopped drinking etc etc), nothing I can do seems to be helping. I am trying to be guided by the experts but no one wants to commit to a solution, they all tell me different things. I am starting to think maybe this will just never happen for me but I don’t want to face into that either. To top things off, it feels like every person I know is pregnant at the moment (including my sister and my boss) and I am just surrounded. I feel like I’m becoming so isolated but I just don’t want to be around anyone and not sure if this is making it worse.