Are we infertile because we're incompatible?

[ohsheglows]

Some of you will probably laugh at me, but I've always wondered whether my husband and I are experiencing infertility due to compatibility reasons. Is this a thing? Have any of you ever heard of this before?

No its not silly to think. I've thought that my egg and his sperm aren't compatible or there's some issue where maybe its blind sperm and/or an extra hard shell for the egg. Which is why I hope when it comes to collection day his results are slightly better and i get a few eggs as I actually wanted to see if without icsi what they get up to 🙈 i find it interesting to know these things. I always my egg probably knows better (when we argue or things kick off lol)

Not a silly question. So many factors affect fertility that it’s impossible to determine the reason for it. I doubt it’s a case of sheer incompatibility but it’s possible you could both have some unseen underlying condition that’s causing it. As someone who is currently dealing with ‘unexplained’ secondary fertility, I truly believe there is a reason behind all infertility but not enough research has been done or technology developed to determine the cause of every case.

Thanks for both of your replies. It's reassuring to know that there are people out there who have had the same thoughts as me. We've had 5 rounds of IVF and I haven't even got pregnant. I'm really starting to think it's a biological compatibility issue rather than anything else :(

There are compatibility issues but there are tests for that.

Implantation failure can be for a number of things... Have you had a hysteroscopy? Tested for endometritis, endometriosis, NK cells, thyroid, diabetes, etc?

If all physical issues have been ruled out, you should go to a Reproductive Immunologist, your immune system may be preventing implantation.

I’m not sure this is what you mean, but my DH has been under a lot of pressure lately, lost his job, sister is undergoing lots of medical treatment and his aging parents have mental heath issues.

He’s been quite snappy with me and it’s lead to a few arguments. In my worst moments I think we aren’t getting pregnant for a reason. Emotional incompatibility = no baby. Which is stupid, because we were trying for years before the extra stresses life has thrown us in the last 6 months! I’m such a logical person, but desperately grasping for explanations for our unexplained fertility. 💛