End of the road 😢

[Redheadednortherner]

I knew the odds were heavily stacked against be given my age (46) but it was still upsetting. I went to the Create fertility scan and there were virtually no follicles…so that’s it. I’d managed to get pregnant when I was 42 after1 month but subsequently had three miscarriages. Then Covid happened a do didn’t get a recurrent miscarriage appointment for about 2years. I sat in the car then drove home. I’m struggling at work having just done a restructure and trying to recruit is exhausting while keeping things going with barely any staff. I ended up going off sick for two weeks. My boss seems to be getting through things at rocket speed passing them down to me and I struggle to get the smallest things done :(

@Redheadednortherner so sorry to read this. Sending love xx

I am so sorry to hear you are going through this @Redheadednortherner I will say though Create specialise in mild IVF. I’ve had two cycles one at Create and one at Lister. With the cycle at Create I only got one egg and in the scans they always counted less eggs, I think they are more stringent. But with Lister I did a lot better. Is it worth going to another clinic for a second opinion? Another clinic we were seriously considering also was CRGH. I don’t want to get your hopes up but at the same time I think it might be worth getting one more opinion?

I don’t know - given my age I maybe setting myself up for more pain?

I'm 42 so no spring chicken xx

Thing is on the scans it showed no follicles just a cyst. They said it was virtually impossible to get pregnant at my age

I don’t want to give false hope but cycles do vary from month to month. I’ve had cycles with only tiny follicles and no actual viable follicles, then 6 decent ones the next month…I do think it’s worth getting a second opinion as though your age is against you, there’s still a chance. And there is the option of donor egg too. Sending love. This journey is exhausting. ❤️

The reality is that the egg quality would be poor :(

I haven’t been able to get pregnant in the last four years before that I had three but they all miscarried. Maybe it’s natures way.

I can’t really get my head around donor eggs

Well I had the meeting with Create today. Felt like going through it all again at the scan -the AMH was 0.5 - so literally none existent. They talked about trying IVF but honestly what is the point. - I'm 46 have 0.5 AMH and there are so many risks now. I'll just have to live with this forever.

@Redheadednortherner so hard to read. I'm so sorry. I did duo stim last year with an AMH of 1.2 and we did genetic testing on anything that got to day 5. Not saying it works for everyone but it worked for me x

Maybe if I’d done it when I had the first miscarriage I was42 then, but now at 56 there seems little point when the success rates are virtually nil 😢

I didn't realise you were 56. I totally understand now x

Sorry 46!!

@Redheadednortherner I'm so sorry that you find yourself in such a difficult position.

I did have a baby at 46 but the embryo was created when I was aged 44.5 and I think I am also quite rare. I don't know what my AMH was but I did still have follicles. We did embryo banking and testing to try to find viable embryos. We had 2 euploids in the end but I had a chemical with the first. It was a long and very hard road.

For me it was about not having regrets. I think it's important to take the steps that you need until you feel ready to stop. I made my decisions based on the thought "if this doesn't work, will I regret having done x or not having done y". Having said that, that led us down a very tough and expensive path and put a huge strain on our relationship that I only just feel we are recovering from.

I appreciate that donor eggs isn't for everyone and I appreciate that it may seem wrong coming from me but I have 2 friends with donor egg babies and honestly I don't think it is an issue once you become pregnant. Genetic link is such a small small part of being a Mum.

Best of luck wherever this path takes you. Xxx