Doctor keeps talking about her own children

[LauK123]

Hi everyone,
I've been told that I may not be able to get pregnant and that if I were to get pregnant it would be high risk. I don't know if I'm being overdramatic but the doctor advising me that I shouldn't become pregnant keeps randomly talking about her baby and toddler and it really upsets me. I personally find it really insensitive. I wouldn't mind if she was a friend or something. I'm not asking people to never discuss babies just because I may not be able to have any. I just don't understand why a doctor is advising me against having children then casually talking about her own. Am I being unreasonable feeling like this?

@LauK123 - I think doctor is being insensitive. You should try talking to someone at the clinic and make a complaint about it or switch consultants. You are already vulnerable as you are, no need to hurt yourself further. I don't think doctor is doing it on purpose but overall unprofessional. She might be new to this country, that's the only excuse I can think of

Hi - agree with @LauK123 - don’t think the doctor is doing on purpose, their life is probably very busy with the young children they have but they’re being very insensitive and you should complain. Going through fertility issues myself and honestly I’d also feel how you’re feeling. No - you are not being unreasonable x

Thanks both ❤️

@LauK123 as someone who has gone through a lot of infertility treatment I found these topics really triggering. A clinician discussing your infertility should not be bringing up their family during their consultations with you. I expect they haven't experienced the trauma of infertility or pregnancy loss with the way they're behaving. I probably wouldn't even bring it up, I'd just change to another clinician at the practice for consultations moving forward if that's a possibility.

@LauK123 I'm surprised the doctor isn't trained to be more emotionally intelligent when dealing with matters as such. Slightly different note - I was put in a room full of obviously pregnant people when I went for my scan to confirm a miscarriage. This was the NHS, completely thoughtless. They apologise afterwards but the trauma will stay with me forever.

I dont know if you're dealing with a private fertility clinic or a GP or NHS, either way it should not matter as they should be trained professionally.

It is very insensitive and shows a lack of empathy.
I remember a nurse from the fertility clinic rang to share the ‘wonderful news’ that my doctor was pregnant so I would have someone else for future appointments. In a way it was good that I avoided seeing her bump but the nurse genuinely seemed to think I should have been excited for the doctor, she kept asking what I thought (I guess my initial response wasn’t enthusiastic enough!)

@MsPeony that is awful 💐

OP no you are not being unreasonable at all. If you feel comfortable I'd just ask her to stop talking about them (that's what I would do) not rudely or anything but just say it's a sensitive issue for you. I don't think she's doing it on purpose, I think people who haven't gone through this have no idea how triggering it can be but I'd expect a bit more empathy tbh. Otherwise if you preferred then ask to change doctors if possible. Sorry you had to go through that x