Infertility/endometriosis struggles

[Sjaynexo]

Hey all,

Just reaching out to see if anybody else is going through what I am/or similar. On the waiting list for surgery to have one or both (probably both) of my fallopian tubes removed.

Finding it very tough after 2 years TTC, it feels like a sudden end to our journey. I feel like everyone around me suddenly is pregnant or has a baby.

I feel like I’ve coped well over the two year period, but now I just blame myself & hate my body so much. A few friends know, but none who have struggled so can’t help much and my family know about the surgery but not about the TTC.

Feel like I’ve managed to isolate myself because nobody around me seems to understand how I feel.

Sorry for the long moan, but hoping someone on here understands and would be up for a chat!

xxxxxx

Hi OP. I’m so sorry you are going through this. Infertility is probably the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with. There are infertility groups on Facebook too, and I met a friend through one for some real life support. But I also found the Mumsnet infertility board so helpful.

What are your next steps after surgery do you think? Have you considered IVF?

IVF will be our only option really. Unless they can save one of my tubes, which they don’t think they can as of now.

It’a going to be a fair while off yet though and I just don’t know if I’ll have the emotional strength by the time it is in option!

thank you so much for your response X

Hey!

I could've written this post myself. I'm also waiting on laparoscopy for the removal of endometriosis, two large endometrioma cysts and hydrosalpinx in my left tube (also removal of the right tube if this has damage, which I expect it will!) and have been TTC for 2 years.

I don't have much advice as I expect we have very similar feelings, I've also had 4 friends fall pregnant very easily this year so nobody who understands our struggles.

I do find as time goes on I have less expectation of falling pregnant so the heartbreak every month isn't so bad - also find joy in the smaller things in life, reading, walking, sunflowers, decorating for my favourite seasons 🙂 sending lots of strength to you.

Thank you so much for your response. I’m sorry you’re going through this too.

I’m trying to switch my focus for a while, but it isn’t working so well. I’m hoping I’m just in a bad spell and it looks up for me soon.

I’d love to stay in touch if you would x x