Feeling doomed

[Hopingforhappiness1]

Does anyone else feel like it will just never happen? I feel so lost- it's so hard to see a doctor at the minute and I'm convincing myself I have endo or something else which is making me infertile.

My partner has a child with a previous partner so we don't qualify for IVF and the stress of figuring out how we are going to finance it is really scaring me. And in the meantime the months just trickle on and before you know it, it will be another year without a baby.

Im just fed up and wanted to vent. My friends all fall pregnant instantly so they can't relate, infertility is so lonely.

Hi @Hopingforhappiness1 , its so hard isn't it? We had IVF due to male factor infertility and when we first got my husbands sperm results back and found out we would never conceive naturally it was such a huge blow. We didn't know much about IVF and nothing about ICSI at the time so it felt very hopeless. Happy to say this was in Feb 2022 and sitting here in Sept 2023 I now have a 6 week old boy from our first round of IVF, and all those months and years of fruitless trying, and the despair of infertility feels like it happened to anpther person, not me. Feels like a million miles away!

Alot of clinics have finance packages so have a good thorough research to see what's on offer, how long have you been trying? It may be worth getting some of the lessons expensive tests dine first like amh, ovulation etc and also sperm as men's semen parameters can drop. Big hug and things do change, but arm yourself with as much knowledge as possible and push for a Dr's appointment and referrals.

Couldn't read and run. I think everyone feels helpless and as if it won't happen. Took us 8 years for our only positive test. It's relentless and isolating. But you aren't alone. There are 1000s of us who understand.

Thank you both. I just feel so lost with everything.

We've had some testing done and nothing has come back with anything, I know that unexplained infertility is common it's just frustrating when you don't know what is wrong, because you're in the dark with what to work on- although I suspect I have endometriosis.

We have been given 3 months of clomid- the first two rounds haven't worked so I don't have much hope for the third. As far as I am aware, I ovulate normally so I doubt this is the cause of our infertility. The next steps would be IVF, if we can find a way to afford it!

So happy you both managed to get there in the end- if gives me hope that one day it could be me.

@Hopingforhappiness1
I feel exactly the same. I want to give up. IVF is expensive and doesn’t necessarily mean you'll get the desired outcome. It's a very lonely, sad and frustrating journey. Big hug xx