Hello, I’m new to mumsnet but would love to get some advice as seems like there’s a good balance of advice/truth spoken.
i’ve been TTC for 6 years now. I suffered récurrent miscarriages and chemical pregnancies for 3-4 of those years. I went to my GP but was fobbed off, due to losing all my pregnancies before 7 weeks, I was told that it was most likely genetics or just nature that was causing problems and was even told at one point that it was because I was old (I was 35 at the time).
i ended going to a private clinic, who although expensive have been thorough and given me good service and have produced genetically normal embryos (have 5 euploid embryos still in the freezer) but found that I have immune problems which seeing as everything else is normal seems to be the problem (wish I could go back to my GP and tell them to be mindful of this for the next lady that comes along like me).
I’ve had 4 failed embryo transfer so far and with the 6 years of trying as well as my father dying this year and a couple of serious family illnesses I feel exhausted and am now wondering if I should continue.
ive put a lot of my life on hold and have had to isolate due to immuno meds I’ve been out on, which is causing problems at work as well as not being able to see friends, not to mention the mental burden of repeat failures. I’m pretty robust but I’m starting to feel the years, I’m 39 now.
Has anyone got any advice. I feel like I need to look at my future without children as it’s looking less likely it’ll happen, plus my bank balance has taken a massive hit, causing further stresses. I believe I could be happy childless, I’m active, love to walk, and like my own company. I worry more that 5 further failed transfers and 20k more debt would be more detrimental at this point in my journey.
thanks :)