Struggling to Conceive and Lonely

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Hi everyone, thought I’d start a post on here as the title shows I’m struggling to conceive and feeling so very lonely.

A bit of background, myself and my husband are 28 (Me) and 32. We have been trying to have a baby for 3 years now. We’ve had 1 miscarriage after trying for 3 months months, then nothing since. My husband also has a child from a previous relationship. I haven’t had much testing, but during my miscarriage and numerous tests throughout that the doctors couldn’t find anything wrong. I also have a very regular cycle, and no causes for concern with that.

I haven’t really shared anything with anyone, nobody knows we’re going through this, and I feel so lonely. I feel like I’ve let my husband down, parents etc. I also think it’s causing problems with me and my husband due to the strain and sadness of it all.

So that’s it really, I just felt the need to open up, if only to people I don’t know, and just have somewhere I can talk.

xx

Hi, I just wanted to reach out as I totally understand how lonely ttc can be. My husband and I started trying about 3 years ago and apart from a possible chemical in December 2020, we have never been able conceive naturally. No one really talks about ttc and I also found that as each of our friends started announcing their pregnancies one by one, I felt more and more lonely and isolated. I felt like I had no one to talk to because everyone I knew was falling pregnant naturally and they were either totally absorbed in their own exciting new life or they just didn’t understand, because how could they when it was so easy for them.

Last year we had lots of tests done to find if there was a problem. Nothing came back so technically it could happen naturally. But we decided to go down the ivf route. Our first round worked and we fell pregnant, however I had a missed miscarriage around 7-8 weeks (didn’t find out till 11 weeks) so after our frozen embryo failed in February, we are now on round 2.

I don’t know if ivf is something you would consider but I’ve found it has helped me feel better about things and to feel like I’m actually doing something extra to try and make this happen for us. I’m happy to chat about my experience if it helps at all x

Also I’ve just realised you wouldn’t be eligible for free ivf rounds as your husband has a child from a previous relationship so I don’t know if IVF would be something that would be affordable for you, but it could be worth looking into if cost allows (I think my friend paid around £9000 which I know is a lot of money) x

Hello, thank you for replying. I’m really sorry to hear this is happening for you too :(

Im feeling the same, a lot of my friends are starting to have babies, and some even second babies now.

Im really sorry to hear this about your IVF. My miscarriage was a missed miscarriage too, should have been 10 weeks and found out the baby stopped developing at 9 weeks, it was such a shock.

We found that out about IVF too, and we just couldn’t afford it which is really sad too.

Its been lovely talking to you, feel free to message me if you need a chat too 😊 xx