Finding the IUI process overwhelming

[themiddleofnowhere]

Hi,
I hope this is an okay place to post, but I'm desperately hoping to become a Mum and had my initial consultation recently. The clinic suggested IUI rather than IVF as a starting point which I prefer because it's less invasive and less expensive, but I'm still really daunted.
I get teary whenever I think about the steps they laid out as somehow this wasn't how I imagined becoming pregnant. I've done one interal ultrasound so far and found it horrible (I'm a rape survivor so I'm a bit of a baby with that kind of thing). The clinic has said I need to do a smear test, a HyCoSy and that there would then be more internal scans and it all feels like a lot to face for something that might not work. Like I think in my head I'd be better at toughing it out if I knew a baby was going to happen, but as it is it feels like I'm not sure I can climb the mountain for a hope that might just lead to heartbreak.
I was just wondering if anyone else had been on this journey and had any wise words?

Hello, fertility treatment isn't easy and it can feel unfair. I also think in some situations your going through this difficult journey and no one really knows. Don't be hard on yourself. I'm starting IVF soon and I'm so scared about injections/sedation etc. However I remind myself I want to give everything my best shot so when I look back I've done all I can. I sometimes listen to podcasts and is does help hearing how others have gone through it too and I've watched Alex Jones IVF babies. Sorry I've not had IUI so not sure what it entails.

Good luck!

Hi, sorry to hear you have to go through this, any fertility treatment is tough psychologically and everyone copes differently. Be kind to yourself ❤️

I am TC for more than a year our 3d one, I am over 40 so it is not easy anymore. I had 3 chemicals (currently going through 4th), IVF planned for August. I tried to do IUI in April as thought to give a try, they didn't properly explained the procedure and I didn't know it is still stimulated.. Injections part I was surprised was not bad at all (i did into upper leg instead of tummy). But then they told me we cannot proceed as I had 2 big eggs and risk of multiple. I cannot have twins because of funny uterus shape and 2 preterm kids (both were healthy). I was in pieces as hospital knew - I cannot have twins and that stimulation gives high risk of having them 😞

They did also lots of internal scans, tubes checks etc, even when I had pregnancies before, I think they must know and be sure nothing missed.

Good luck with this not easy but at the end hopefully rewarding route! Xx