6th failed transfer. Anyone else been in this position?

[thislittlebird]

I know I’m in a minority of a minority with infertility now. I’m one the people this doesn’t work for so I guess I’m hoping there’s some people around who might have been in a similar position. How did you decide to throw in the towel? How did you know when enough was enough and accepted it won’t work?

Sometimes I feel like I’m ok with not having a family but then I’m really not again and I just remember everything and my husband won’t get to have together that comes so easy to others and it feels so cruel.

Hi @thislittlebird,
It is not the same, but I’ve had 5 unsuccessful transfers from two rounds of stims and 1 bfp.
I know how lonely and scary and heartbreaking it can be. But we ladies are so strong that we just keep going. I wish you strength and patience till your lucky transfer.

Hi OP I had seven failed transfers with my own eggs, then one failed transfer with donor eggs before having DD (donor egg) on my ninth overall attempt. I know posts that encourage us to keep trying after multiple failures are not always helpful as sometimes the poster is contemplating accepting childlessness and focusing on the other good aspects of life. However if you do decide on further attempts, I’d consider if DE would be for you.

@Veluwe thanks, it’s nice to hear from others who had this struggle. We have a couple of embryos left, one euploid, I can only hope one of them will be our turn to have some good luck.

@GreyGoose1980 I’m glad your DE transfer worked after a long journey. It’s not something we’re likely to consider, we’re both immunologically infertile so making embryos isn’t the issue, it’s implantation and finding good sperm. There’s no guarantee my body would accept it so for us it’s probably try with our own and if that doesn’t work commit to the child free life.