How long did it take you to conceive?

[Jadelovely]

So just wanted to get things off my chest really. I’m 25 OH is 29, ttc for 22 months now! feels like forever. I’ve had bloods and a scan done and everything is fine, other half had a SA done and everything was fine other than his morphology was 3% we’ve finally been referred to a fertility clinic just awaiting an appointment. Just want to hear everyone’s fertility journeys, how old you are, how long did it take to conceive your child? i just feel quite deflated really and feel like it will never happen.. every month when AF arrives i lose a little bit more hope that we are ever going to become parents and it makes me so sad as it’s all we’ve ever wanted in our lives. I just want to feel like we aren’t alone at our ages. (I know we aren’t it’s just nice to be able to speak to people who knows exactly how i feel)

You have at least the age on your side, trust me, it's a positive thing, I'm pretty sure with fertility treatment you'll be able to conceive soon. I'm 35 been ttc for 14 months and nothing, low amh on my end, he is fine, so the problem is mine and day after day I think that fertility treatment is not going to work on me and that we will end up with egg donation, which I'm willing to do if this is my only chance to have and give a child to my OH but my mind keeps spinning around with so many questions about this. Pretty though journey. Hang in there you are not alone.

When you’re having problems conceiving it feels very lonely but you aren’t alone and everyone has different obstacles to overcome if you’re struggling. You might skew younger than most of us round here but that’s a benefit, you have plenty of time and young eggs. I know people who have conceived naturally after two years at various ages, so it might still happen for you but good you’ve got the ball rolling on seeing your clinic.

It still hasn’t worked for us, it’s been nearly 4 years, 3 rounds of ivf and 6 embryo transfers to date. But I’m nearly 40 now and time is the key thing I wish we’d had, we started trying when I was 36 and if I could know what I do now and go back and have started 2, 4, 6 years earlier I would.

@Jadelovely hi lovely.

I was 25 when DH and I first started TTC. He was 30. We tried naturally for 2 years and around 10 months - in that time I had every test under the sun that I was entitled to. Our doctors refused to test DH has he had a child and told me it wouldn’t be him!! (albeit he was 10!) finally they caved once I told them it had been 3 years. The NHS told us his sample was fine - we got no proven results.

I requested the results and had a consultation with our nearest IVF clinic (we had to self fund due to DH having a son) they advised us that his sample was great, except morphology. Which was at 1%! Ideally it should be 4. We went straight in for IVF with ICSI, and I really luckily got pregnant first time 🤍 incredibly grateful. I am now 17+3 with a healthy baby boy.

I know how crushing it is, and whilst you’re still within “normal” parameters it’s bloody shit. Being so young I assumed it would happen right away.

There are things Dh can do to improve morphology. But we just didn’t want to wait just incase.

Sorry you’re going through this, but there is light at the end of the tunnel 🥺 I’m 29 soon, and still can’t believe we started trying so long ago x

DC1 at 33 took 2 months. DC2 at 41 took 7 years! No particular explanation other than age as to why the 2nd one took so long.

@KoraPersefone i know i do keep telling myself that. Just makes me worry sometimes i’ll never have kids as at my age I expected to get caught on pretty quickly, so when AF turns up every month it knocks my hope that little bit more. Thankyou you too, i really hope you get your BFP soon!! fingers crossed. If you ever need a chat i’m always up to talk. It always helps speaking to someone going through the same and they understand the emotions and feelings a little bit more 💕

@thislittlebird sorry to hear this, it’s such an emotional rollercoaster for us all and our different circumstances. I do keep reminding myself im not alone and there are unfortunately a lot of other couples going through the same thing, but as you say your own individual journey sometimes makes you feel so lonely. the guidelines did used to be 2 years before a fertility clinic intervenes so i suppose that is something, but you lose hope every month don’t you when things don’t go the way you want them to. I really hope you get your beautiful miracle by the end of your journey ❤️

@Izzie94x its heartbreaking as you stupidly believe that at a young age you will get pregnant straight away, unfortunately it doesn’t always work out that way. My partners morphology is at 3% which isn’t the worst possible results, dr just said that it would take longer which it is doing. I did think weirdly before we even started trying that it was going to take longer, it’s amazing how we know our own bodies right? my other half even said that he wishes we had started trying earlier as i did want to start trying a lot earlier than he did. I’m so glad you finally have your miracle, you deserve this 💕 xx

@Hedwigharlot congratulations! i’m glad you finally got your second child. I hear and read a lot of stories about if you get caught in so quickly with your first your second takes a while and vice versa. You think get people like my sister who are so lucky and get caught in straight away each time lol x

Im so sorry you are going through this. We experienced secondary infertility. It’s different for everyone but I was definitely glad to start IVF and be proactive rather than continue just trying where we didn’t get a single positive in 3.5 years. With IVF we got pregnant on the first cycle but I had a miscarriage. I was happy to know I could actually conceive again though, that it was possible despite the heartbreak.

On the second cycle we tested our one embryo and it was normal. So far all is good 🙏🤞 I’m 32 weeks pregnant. I never thought we would get here. In my darkest days I was going through the motions, I honestly was just doing IVF to say we had done it and tried everything. But it did work. I’m not saying it will for everyone. But the more attempts the more chance you’ll hit the jackpot eventually.

The best of luck to everyone on this thread

Oh and total trying time was 3.5 years naturally and a year of IVF, trying in between so 4.5 years.

It can be such a tough journey can’t it.

We had a MMC after just 2 months of trying and so we expected to catch on quickly again but my body was really affected by the MMC. I was 29ish. It then took us 5 years, unexplained infertility and 2 unsuccessful IVF rounds to then fall pregnant naturally with my son. We then fell pregnant 9 months after my son was born, thinking oh it’ll take us ages again 😂 and I’m now 28 weeks.

Wishing you all the best x

@summerpoolandsun thankyou! so much! it does give me hope when people have been trying so long and eventually get where they want to be. Congratulations 💕 you really do go through the motions, it’s such a rollercoaster of emotions.. I have told my other half i don’t want to even try again after we are eventually successful the first time round 😂 it’s too much heartbreak, i never knew ttc was going to be this hard! We will be coming up to two years in August. I do have a wedding to look forward to so that’s helping a lot more than before as i can keep occupied with planning that. I feel less stressed about the whole thing since getting engaged, at least i have something to occupy me now 😂

@Hippomumma yea definitely the toughest journey of my life, i really don’t want to have to do this again, when we finally get our little miracle, i can’t go through it again. Sorry to hear that, you hear so many stories about people having unsuccessful ivf rounds to then fall pregnant naturally, i wonder if it just kick starts our reproductive system some how 😂 but congratulations on both babies! 💕 I have always thought that maybe it has taken so long this time that it will be practically straight away if i ever decide to pluck up the courage to go through this again for a second child. thankyou so much x

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