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Gutted about day 5 embryo update/male factor stress 💜

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lilChansey · 16/04/2023 09:52

Just got our day 5 update on our embryos - we started with 5 eggs on egg retrieval, we had 3 fertilize and then make it to day 3, and today only 1 is an early blast so we're giving it another day to hopefully develop well enough to freeze 🤞 gutted, particularly because I've been really stressed about male factor this round. I'm 33 low AMH and have been getting 1-2 eggs per cycle and doing everything I can to increase egg quality for months and months. I was egg freezing before, but this was our first attempt at starting to embryo batch. So getting 5 this cycle was SO good in comparison!

The thing is my partner's BMI has increased significantly recently, and he has been pretty lax on his exercise regimen lately and not particularly eating well or taking any supplements. I've been trying to encourage him to do his part to prepare just in case, since I've been hitting it so hard and time is of the essence for me AND this whole thing is just so freaking expensive so why not give it our all?? But the urgency and seriousness hasn't really been landing with him - I assume because he hasn't been the one injecting himself daily, nor told that time is running out for him?

Anyway, I'm trying SO hard not to 'blame' today's poor development on him, but I think I'm just so hurt that it feels like all my efforts and good luck this cycle were wasted because my partner wasn't holding up his end. 😭 I know that's probably SO not fair, so if anyone could help debunk this fear or share anything comforting from truly any angle at all (lol) that would be great ❤️ tysm all

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decor340 · 16/04/2023 11:14

Hey don't lose hope! It only takes one to make a baby.
I felt really down with our numbers when we did ivf. The drop off rate was massive. To get 5 eggs and for 3 to fertilise is incredible.
I got 17 eggs! Then only 8 fertilised, 2 made it to 5 day blast, one poor quality and one good quality. He is now a 15 months old laying beside me napping.
Please have hope, I wish I had more faith in it as I still didn't believe it when I got a positive pregnancy test.

lilChansey · 16/04/2023 16:58

Aw so good to hear about your little one!! Also thanks for your supportive note about fertilization rate 💖💖💖 It's so hard when you're trying not to get your hopes up, isn't it? Glad it worked out for you in the end - here's hoping for at least 1 for me!

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AnxiousAndHopeful · 23/02/2024 19:26

@lilChansey Hi friend, how did you get on? My husband and I are in a not dissimilar boat with big drop off on day 1 - really spooked me

lilChansey · 23/02/2024 20:25

@AnxiousAndHopeful Aw hi! Please don't lose hope! It turned out his numbers were all totally fine. Which I was super relieved and grateful for, though didn't feel was fair considering how fragile my own numbers seem to be, haha. But try not to stress/worry too much!

In the end we froze 2 day 6 blasts, 4B+A and 5B-A! Crossing my fingers for you, sending lots of love🤞🤞

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